AIBU to be radged up by a woman sitting through my IT course going 'ooh' and 'ahh' all day?

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I have spent all day at a course learning a new IT system.

Useful but hardly riveting despite a helpful and quite fun trainer.

I invited a junior colleague who sat there meeting every one of the trainer's points with a low 'oooh' 'wow' 'ahh' or 'mmm' as though it was a fireworks display.

I am trying to help her develop so I feel a bit tight but it has driven me up the bloody wall all day and I've just got home.

In fairness I don't think she has had much formal training so perhaps just didn't know it was not necessary to 'ooh' and 'ahh' or in some way respond but I saw other colleagues and even the trainer starting to look tetchily at her.

She also does it in meetings and it can be distracting when chairing.

Would it be horrendously controlling and mean to tell her in our next 1 to 1 that she does not have to moo all the way through meetings and training?

And yet she lives?

Ooh that's so exciting.

Oooh, version control you say? Wow!

Another 15 mins and the outcome may have been different, Howdoes

YANBU. I actually felt my blood pressure rising just reading your OP. Beyond irritating.

I would be fighting to roll my eyes so hard that. There’s showing an interest and then that!

YANBU. I recently went on a guided tour. Every time the guide opened his mouth a woman in the party 'oohed and aahhhhd' with great aplomb. I spent the entire tour trying to move away from her.

Maybe she’s not conscious she’s doing it.

I think the poll may be broken

I don't think it would be mean to tell her. Awkward, yes. Mean, no. If she is that annoying then she's going to end up being known as 'that' person and that isn't going to help her any if she's trying to climb the career ladder.
As long as you do it diplomatically. I don't know how to do that diplomatically mind, but that's how it should be done!

Oh dear this might be me.. People are so often miserable and bored at work. I tend to try and show enthusiasm to try and lift the mood. If I had to sit there blankly I would end up staring down the barrel of the meaninglessness of life, literally screaming and smashing something then running off to cry in the toilets.

Hadn't realised it might be so annoying.

Not gonna stop

Oh god, Booberella I feel like a total curmudgeon now! I don't want you to stop cheering things up!

Ahh, op there's no need to feel like that.

Tell her in person. She might not be aware she does it. But she needs to learn not to do it.

YANBU, but having once been a professional trainer myself, I am probably guilty of this myself. I certainly nod enthustastically and smile throughout presentations, having given one too many where the audience has stared at me blankly.

So why haven't you had the bollocks to tell her?
FFS

Thing is OP, unself-aware people are unself-aware. I manage a woman with the LOUDEST voice ever. I’ve mentioned it in 1:1s with specific examples and times when it’s really inappropriate (client confidentiality). She’ll occasionally say, ‘I’m being too loud, aren’t I?’ but it hasn’t changed anything. Zoning it out is the only thing that works.

Boo. My image didn't post Lecture theatre

Oblomov

I've only started at the company about 6 weeks ago (been offsite quite a bit of that) and am just starting to put in place improvement measures (quite informal so far). Wasn't sure if this would cross the line into controlling!!

I make faces in meetings. Usually this one:

Should try to be more circumspect so YANBU.

I think enthusiasm should be rewarded. She sounds full of energy.

many moons ago - I remember doing a course - the lecturer use to drone - it was straight after lunch less than 20 of us in the room. I was battling to keep my eyes open so I looked round the room & everyone looked like they were asleep 2 with their heads on the desk - imagine if that had been you!

Well this is the problem. She SOUNDS engaged and enthusiastic.

This seems to be her priority. She is very good at agreeing to everything enthusiastically in the moment then the work doesn't actually happen. Sorry, i provided no context but this is what has been happening and is the really problem!