To be worried sick about my friend ?

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Hi, so I have a friend I’ll call her Sue, she’s one of my best friends who I worked with many years ago. She’s 65 next week, she’s like a grandparent to me . We had made plans to meet up for a coffee and breakfast tomorrow. We made these plans almost 5 weeks ago and I hadn’t got my diary with me so I ‘pencilled in’ to my phone at the time. I then got a reminder last week about one of my other friends (Sophie ) birthday celebration which is also tomorrow an hour after I was supposed to be meeting Sue .
Baby brain, I had completely forgotten . Anyway my friend Sue doesn’t have a mobile , just a landline and we rely on email to chat in between calls . Sue lives alone with her cat and I have no other means of contact for her, no next of kins (she has no children). I have been trying to contact her for days to try and let her know I can’t do tomorrow but I haven’t managed to catch her at all I’ve emailed her, not got anything back. I have her address but can’t drive , and it’s about 30 mins from my house and I don’t want to just turn up, but I’m panicking that something has happened to her and that nobody knows to contact me , like her neighbour or something . What can I do? Am I over reacting ? It’s been 5 weeks since we last spoke to make plans , so anything could’ve happened couldn’t it ? She’s been scatty on emails before but will always get back to me if she’s missed a phone call.
It’s not like her.
Please advise me

@itsemily I would defo go and see her. 30 minutes isn't far.

Does she not have any facebook or twitter or ANYthing?

I'm another one who votes either go round or call 101- especially if it's out of character for her.

Please call 101 if you are worried my Dads step sister had been dead for 5 weeks in her flat all alone before her work reported her missing.

Does no one else who use to work with you both live near her that you could ask to call round on her?

Either call 101 or go round now

Is there anyone who could give you a lift to het house tonight to check on her?

Hi everyone , I just called her one more time and she picked up with an almighty ‘itsemily!! I’m so sorry!’ . I cried with relief .
She’s fine, she has had problems with her computer (isn’t very technical and hasn’t got round to getting someone to sort it) , and she doesn’t like to call from landline to mobile as it costs her money so she’d rather email but obviously has got stuck with the computer . She said she was going to call tonight though as she couldn’t get the emails open. So all is well with Sue and we are meeting next weekend instead . She’s fine and dandy .
To answer questions , she hates technology so won’t use a mobile , doesn’t have any social media of any kind . We both didn’t like where we worked and when I left she retired , so we aren’t in touch with anyone from that office now, we’ve been gone 6 years or so . Only stayed in touch with each other.
Thanks for the advise on 101, if she hadn’t called I was going to ring them. I wasn’t stereotyping by saying she has a cat and lives alone @Lifeoverhaul I was making a point In saying there’s nobody at home with her other than the cat. A very innocent statement sorry if I offended you.

She’s told me she’ll give her other good friend (Linda) my number and address should she need to contact me in an emergency as she sees Sue once a week. So that’s put me at ease now.
I’m probably just overly anxious with my pregnancy hormones idk .

@GameSetMatch that is horrifying! How sad.

Please either go round or call the non emergency police.

Yes, can you get anyone to give you a lift to hers, or is there a bus route ?

Ohh just too late! Glad she’s ok!

You must be so relieved.

I’d say try and convince her to get a mobile for emergencies but if she’s anything like my dad it gets shoved in a drawer with a dead battery

I tried to get her to have my mums old phone that was very basic touch screen @Cornettoninja and she told me herself she would end up leaving it in a drawer 🤣 not sure what else I can do other than try to not stress so much. She said ‘I’m not even 65 yet I’m not going anywhere!’ But with myself and my husband both working in healthcare we’ve seen horror stories ourselves of young people dying and not being found for weeks on end and it bothers me so much !

So pleased to hear there is a happy outcome!

Good news! Glad she's OK.

Youre a lovely friend OP

I bought my mum a mobile phone for the exact same reason - so she could call any of us should she need help, wherever she was in the house. She doesn't only turn it off at night, she takes the battery out so it doesn't catch fire.

OP I'm so glad your friend is okay, what a relief

Bluntness hardly "shit advice". Sue is fine. The logical explanation was the one that was accurate, that she had computer trouble. Not that she was being eaten by her cat suddenly 5 weeks since last contact with the OP.

Christ, people are watching too much shite on tv and working themselves up into a frenzy. You'll be stockpiling next OP

Lots of 65 year olds are perfectly capable of using a mobile phone

My thought was that after making a plan you were emailing to ditch her and she might have had the hump and not be dead at all. But it seems all is well.

She’s lucky she has you. You’re a great friend

@Frankiecandle I never said 65 year olds aren’t capable of using mobile phones ?
I said she doesn’t like technology ? Unless I wrote that somewhere and have missed it I’m sorry.
@CokeEnStock thankfully neither of those scenarios were true lol. I don’t usually mess up, we have lovely catch ups every 2-3 months , This was a one off diary mess up on my part . She was perfectly ok with me and said she’s very thankful I care so much. So all is well

Thanks everyone for your help x

I've never been so relieved to hear that a Sue I don't know is ok! Phew! You sound like a lovely friend OP, glad everything's alright

As above - you sound like a lovely friend OP

Thank you lovely ladies for your kind words ! @ShesCurly & @greygoose1980 💕