Backstory -
FIL has come over at least once a week since DD was born to spend a bit of time with her. This is facilitated by me as DP is more often than not at work. Lately he’s started telling DD he’ll be over on X day then not turning up or cancelling last minute leaving DD upset. Although he always makes sure to see her it tends never to be on the day he’s told her.
It happened again yesterday and despite my best efforts at distraction DD still asked for him several times and was distraught at bedtime when she realised she wouldn’t see him.
DP fully agrees that it is not fair on our DD or me because I have to feel with the fall out from it. But due to his complicated relationship with his father won’t say anything to him.
WIBU to send FIL a message just saying that i appreciate how much effort he puts in with DD and I know he would never set out to intentionally upset her but could he please stop specifying a day when he’s going to see her because as much as I understand how busy life can get and things crop up ultimately she doesn’t and it’s leaving her upset when she doesn’t see him as planned?