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AIBU mundane work situation that I can’t drop

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JoJothesquirrel · 05/03/2020 22:57

Ok. This is going to one of those completed A and B deals. I’ve chopped as much as I can in the hope someone will read it but will elaborate if needed - dh hadn’t a clue and he knows aaaalll the details so I’ll probably drive you crazy.

My work is project based. I don’t work on anything where my outcome is reliant on someone else’s work entirely - been burned before. I can make these choices and boss knows why. I am on a project now where there are 2 mirrored teams working to 1 goal. So team members > team leader (me) > line manager > boss (who is the boss of the 2 line managers). Scene set.

My mirror team leader is terrible. They run around in panic all the time and call their line manager before and after every decision. Fine, not my problem.

We have just had an intense few days where a lot of my time was spent unfucking their actions. They gave my team orders to be in line with their team, I don’t run my team where they have to ask me every time they want a pee, if they don’t know when to pee then they can complete and online tutorial. Literally had to call a meeting to say “stop asking me if you can pee/go for lunch/swap shifts, when did we ever work like that?!”

Then because they calls her team leader 50 times a day she had all the updates and feedback. I am a fool and it took me a beat to realise they were panicking and prioritising at random. So had to call my line manager and say “we are going to have to speak more often because I can’t trust what they says so 2 calls a day where 1 bloody email a week would do”

Final point, due to nature of work site and client we have to be off Friday. My team are bang up to date and will enjoy the day enjoying peeing when they want. Their team have put in hours of over time as they work and they works again ad Infinitum. So they have masses of time off due, and 1/2 complete work. Fine not my issue. But they casually dropped into conversation that they’ll pop in before the line managers meeting on Friday “to bring them up to date (i have sent a detailed update) and then wait till after the seniors meeting at 2 in case of questions” for no pay.

I’m fuming. They do not represent me and I do not when them babbling shite. I’m newer, they are respected cause of all the hours. I was going to call my line manager and say that my report will be factually different and I want it considered separately, but that makes it a huge deal. Then I wanted to say that I wanted to offer feedback to my line manager and just blurt all this out.

Both options would be unreasonable wouldn’t they? Is there a third option? I don’t know if I can just muddle on, my whole job is preventing the muddling on! I resent not being independently wealthy and being able to hand my notice in.

Sorry for late night rambling and typos. And boring stories.

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OwlinaTree · 05/03/2020 23:00

I'm sorry I can't follow that.

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 05/03/2020 23:04

What are the options you’re considering?

Pinkerpellosa · 05/03/2020 23:05

So you lead a team. Your team is well run. Someone else runs a team in parallel. It's a total shit show.
Are you doing two different projects like building two separate apartment blocks side by side? Or does one follow the other like one team does the electric wires before the other team can plaster the walls?

And the leader of the other team wants to present a joint update. So taking credit for your work (we've got the wires in) but sharing the blame for the slow work which is entirely the other team's fault?

Hittapotamus · 05/03/2020 23:05

You have to raise this with your line manager or their screw ups will shine a poor light on your team. Not because your team is poor but when two seeming peers are so opposed/different in their reporting someone will question where the truth lies.

I imagine this is hugely frustrating for you and until now I can see (and agree) why you worked in parallel but didn't interfere. Now is your time to interfere to show how your way is the right, efficient, effective, on time and on budget way.

Pinkerpellosa · 05/03/2020 23:07

I agree with Hit

JoJothesquirrel · 05/03/2020 23:11

Thanks everyone. I’m aware I basically wrote nonsense and made myself look amazing.

Pinkerpellosa Has explained it better. 2 parallel teams, like building the same structure in 2 halves which will join to be a bridge.

Hittapotamus has summed up what I think, even though I couldn’t make sense. Yes no way we are both telling the truth. I hate running to tell tales but I really hate people thinking my team are shit.

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JoJothesquirrel · 05/03/2020 23:15

I think my options are call my line manager tomorrow and say the other person is representing me inaccurately and I want the opportunity to say my piece.

Or I jump in and make my own report to my line manager saying they are a shit show.

I’m not going to their line manager because that’s nothing to do with me. Despite them calling mine when they can’t get theirs for 20 mins.

When I was driving home I was ready to call the big boss and lay it all out but that’s cause I’ve been surrounded by “drama” all week.

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JoJothesquirrel · 05/03/2020 23:34

Or do I just shut up enjoy my weekend and let the work speak.

I’m the newer employee. For some reason the other team leader is well thought of and well respected. I think it’s because they toot their own horn all the time but maybe they function in chaos and I’m wrong. I don’t want to make a big of this if it’ll be business as usual next week.

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AmIbeingtoomean · 06/03/2020 07:49

I think ask to present separately. Is the other team leader a liar as well as a shit manager?

JoJothesquirrel · 06/03/2020 08:14

I’m not sure if they are a liar. They definitely describe everything as an emergency when it’s an inconvenience, during the terrible weather recently they building key holder was later, we’d all come the same way traffic was horrible, still very early and very easy to assume key holder was running late. They called them half a dozen times and then called the MD of the client company to ask to come out to let us in - that kind of nonsense.

Initially I felt they genuinely thought their perception was right but now I kinda think that’s still lying. Saying we don’t have enough staff when we do if they are working properly and it micromanaged is a lie.

I don’t want a “clear the air” type meeting though. So maybe I keep quiet.

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