To want to just bloody watch the TV without rewinding/pausing!!!

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So, total first world problem here.. ... Love my DH etc, but I find this so bloody irritating I'm about to snap and just want a rant!!!

He is sat watching TV, a documentary about Tyson Fury. I'm not at all interested, I'm reading my phone, just can't be bothered to move off the sofa or I'd be in bed.

He keeps bloody pausing the TV to tell me stuff about the programme or about Tyson Fury. Or he keeps rewinding bits and making me watch them ("making me" = enthusiastic chat about what's going on and "ooh watch this bit" , nothing sinister).

I wouldn't find this half as irritating if this was a rare occurrence, but this happens ALL THE TIME!!! sigh

Watching a film, watching a TV programme together, him watching something I'm 100% not interested in.

Sometimes I literally have to remove the remote control from him to stop him.

It's not just me is it.... This is massively rage inducing right?!?! Raaaagh!!!!!

I'd be petty and keep pausing the show he's watching to tell him something most interesting I've just read on my phone and make sure it was something very boring and a topic he's completely disinterested in. I'd keep doing it until he complained it was annoying and then give him this face until he got the message.

It might be why I don't have a DH

Oh my god why have I not thought to do this Britney, you're an actual genius!!!

How infuriating! You need to tell him bluntly when you're not interested. And hide the remote when you're watching something together! Have you explained to him how annoying this is?

Thats an excellent idea @BritneyPeedOnALadybug

My other half does this as well... if I so much as step out of the room for 30 seconds to put an ear to my DD's door to check on her he has to pause the bloody TV. More often than not I get back and it takes five minutes to restart the thing to find I've missed a few dull frames of nothing.

I'm quite happy to drift in and out of the room and I'm not arsed if I miss a couple of minutes here and there but he's adamant that I have to watch the entire thing from start to finish. It's the closest we've ever come to having a major row :)

My God!!!!!!! I swear I could have written this myself!!!!! Got back after a long day at work, OH is watching the Tyson Fury programme, he did EXACTLY the same, paused it to tell me about it as I was reading something up on my phone, but he does this ALL the time. I end up feigning some sort of interest in what he's talking about and I've even brought it up in arguments sometimes, about him only ever talking about what he wants to talk about. You have my 100% sympathy on this, it's so frikkin annoying!!!! Xxxx

Just tell him that you’re not interested or put QVC on during craft hour and keep rewinding it to tell him about the splendours of crochet.
Just tell him to stop.

Oh he knows I'm not interested and find it irritating, I just think he can't help himself as he feels like it helps us share a moment or something ridiculous like that!

I will confiscate the remote and he's fine about it, I'm not even sure he's aware he's doing it, which might even make it more annoying!!

Must say I'm glad I've got a bit of solidarity here though and it's not just me suffering this!!

(as I type this, tv paused "look at this, look at this, God it was incredible")

I think it's quite sweet that he wants to talk to you about what he's watching!

Leave the room!

ELM8.... I do agree in some respects, he does it through excitement or interest, but it'd still bloody irritating.

lottiegarbanzo I know... But just can't be arsed to move right now and that won't solve the issue when we are watching TV together! Lol

Appreciate the advice... Clearly going with Britney's advice!

But surely if you're actually watching, you'd be paying as much attention as he is... so you'd already know everything the programme has told you both.

My partner does this. Pauses whatever is on whenever I leave the room. I have to specify now do not pause the fucking thing

But yes, I think Britney has it!

Dh does this so much i now go and sit in bed or have a bath so i dont keep hearing 'just watch this bit then I'll leave you alone' if i was interested id be watching

I’ll tell my dh not to pause if I don’t care about something he’s watching, he just carries on watching his bloke stuff while I ‘look at my stories’ ie mumsnet. If he kept pausing to show me stuff I’d tell him to stop. Luckily he won’t, because he knows I’m not interested.

Clearly your DH is excited about the thing he is watching and because he loves you wants to share it with you. If you're not interested you're going to have to actually explain why, but do consider, do you share interests? Do you ever take an interest in his interests (or him in yours)? Maybe he just wants some sort of moment to connect.

Oooh, nobody ever takes my advice usually! bows

I meant:

Yes yes yes! I want old fashioned tv back thank you too. I want to see or even half watch adverts, not have dh ff them. I'm happy to miss bits. I want tv to be relaxing and I don't want to hear that funny noise when it pauses or forwards.

jjjnnnnnrrssss very deep

However I can confirm we chat, we go out on dates (when time allows..... 3 year old twins and 2 full time working parents means we are often zapped), we have shared and separate interests.
I think he does just get over invested in some things.

Literally could be watching anything, and if it sparks a memory in him (usually something he's seen on twitter during the day if it's not directly related to the programme he's watching), he pauses the TV and then shows me. This is usually rhe point at which I confiscate the remote and he "gets" that I'm not down for any of his TV pausy shenanigans!

catrescue I too lament the advent of pausable/rewindable TV!!!

Does my DH have another DW I dont know about I hear you OP. I hear you. "Look at this goal" "do you think that was a sending off?"

Just swap your TV for a basic one.

I understand it's annoying and I'd also find it annoying, but maybe you can view it as him wanting to share his thoughts with you. That's a good thing.
Unless you're actually engaged in something that requires your full attention, I'd say try to be a bit more responsive to his enthusiasm.

I'd expect the same in return, though.