Am I over-the-top or are these guys just lazy and slobby ?

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I live in a studio flat within a big house. The other studios are filled by 5 men.
Last week, one of them went out and left the front door WIDE open. Not even talking about just forgetting to lock it, he left it completely wide open, and we live on a busy main road in an urban area.

We had one who got asked to leave because of complaints. He would order takeaways and let them rot in his room, then put rotting chicken carcasses and such in the bin. We had flies for ages, and funnily since he left, they have stopped.

These men who I was told are all 'working professionals' do not know how to recycle. Constant pizza boxes chucked in the main bin, cereal boxes etc., i've had to sort out their rubbish several times.

Next is the shoes. Forever leaving shoes right in front of the door to the main kitchen and garden so that someone has to move them before they can go out. It's just pure laziness. Why not just leave them on the side ?!

Someone else left dirty dishes in the sink for days on end. I have left notes (I know this can seem passive aggressive, but I rarely see the men and don't know who exactly are the main culprits.

Fortunately our agency is quite strict and there are no noisy parties or anything like that.

Is this normal for men in their 20s/30s?

I can't afford to rent a flat alone (i'm single) and this is the closest thing I can get. I have my own bathroom and small kitchenette which is a lifesaver.

I wouldn't go back into a typical houseshare if you paid me.

Having looked around several rented properties with my daughter recently I can indeed confirm that this is how young men live . I was actually shocked at how disgusting they were and my daughter quickly decided she didn't want to share with men even if they are 'young professionals'

Thanks for all the replies, they are really helpful ! Did not know that about pizza boxes so thank you for letting me know. I will look at halogen ovens now ! And yes I have a small sink which is good.

Multicooker looks fab too !

Take and hide one of each of the pairs of shoes!

Kick the shoes outside. They'll soon learn to put them away when they go missing

Good idea 😂 just can't understand the logic behind leaving them right in the centre of a door to a room people go in and out of all the time !

My daughter lived in a house share for a few years where one lad was often too lazy to use the toilets which were downstairs, in the night. He would often just pee in bottles and leave them in the alcove outside his room. Dirty clothes along the landing, the toilets in a right state, dirty pans in the sink for days etc. In fact, all the males who came and went in that property we’re lazy and dirty to live with. None of them ever did any cleaning. Thankfully she now flat shares with one other girl as she can afford to pay more rent. For a few years cheaper house shares were all she could afford. These were men in late 20s, early 30s. OP you have my sympathies.

I agree with the general notion of making your own private space self sufficient. Nothing that you do will change their behaviour. It will always be like this. The best thing you can do is deck out your own space so that you don't have to share anything with them. Then you can just wash your hands of the whole disgusting nature of it. If it becomes so bad that it's encroaching on your enjoyment of your private space then make a complaint. Maybe someone will force them to improve things a bit.

You have my sympathy. I am a very clean person and I get really depressed when my living space is disgusting and disorderly. I used to have to live in shares and I hated it. I Never had a clean roommate at any point. So Glad that I don't have to do it any more