To demand feed not schedule feed?

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Even if it means they drink more than they "should"?

Twins are 12 weeks and about 14lb 7.

They take 5 oz / 150 ml every 3 hours. Sometimes it's more like 4oz /120 ml so they probably lose 5oz over the course of the day.

Every 3 hours they'll start crying and they stop when I feed them.

DH thinks I'm over feeding them and when they cry they're really hungry and I should wait or stop feed earlier.

So am I making my babies too fat and I should limit them to the guideline volumes or is she bu

No such thing as a fat baby

Feed when they're hungry

I fed on demand.

Feed on demand if they are demanding it!! I’d never let a baby cry if hungry (but may encourage them to feed without them demanding if that makes sense)

He reckons their not crying from hunger. 8 think when they chew on my fingers and pounce on the test, they're hungry.
He's just making me paranoid I'm making them fat cos their tummies are so round. They're 3 months and.l moving into 3-6 moths so that's right to me.
Photo to show what I mean Re tummy

Feed on demand.

Well when he comes home from work hungry tell him he has to wait a few hours. He's obviously not really hungry!

Babies need to eat when they are hungry. Why make them suffer?

Babies' tummies are supposed to look like that.

Tell him he can only eat or drink on a schedule.

The amount is a guide not a rule. There will be some days when they have loads and other days when they are less hungry. Make sure you pace feed.

Husband and she - is this a typo?

I'm sorry but he sounds completely ridiculous and is making up "theories" of his own. They are 3 months old for gods sake. Follow your instincts or get the opinion of a professional HV. They do have rounded tummies this age.
Does he expect them to be washboard flat ?F'Fs. You clearly recognise when they are hungry and are feeding them when they are hungry.

And that is a normal looking tummy for that age.

Snap OP - I have a big baby - also 14 pounds 7 ounces at 12 week weigh in! She's in the 91st percentile but has been since first weigh in and follows her curve nicely. I moved her into 3-6 months clothes at 2 months.

Everyone has said -feed your baby when she wants feeding. There is something called paced feeding which slows down the feeds a bit to let them indicate when they have had enough - if you're worried maybe give that a go? Otherwise I really wouldn't worry - unless they're suddenly crossing many percentiles in which case speak to the HV but they usually only have concerns when babies drop weight.

Just point out that they're thriving babies.
PS - DD moves up to six ounce feeds just after her 12 week weigh in .... just a warning 😊

Re babies tummies, DS was a purely baby who was still in tiny tube feeds as 6 weeks and still is partly so I think subconsciously that's why the babies seem so big. I did suggest he do it himself 😂

Babies have smaller stomachs and milk digests quickly. The pic looks like a perfectly healthy baby to me! Your husband is bu.

I demand fed both of mine (one was bf and one mixed then formula as bf didn't work out) They took what they needed, i didn't count ounces per day and they've never been fat. The formula fed one is pretty skinny at 15 years old.

They've just woke up roughly 3 hours since last feed, and screaming for food. Guess who does all overnight feeds? Guess who would LOVE them to go more than 3 bloody hours

Why doesn’t he help?!

Becasue by the time I've woken him up to feed them I might as well feed them (he wears a hearing aid so genuinely doesn't hear much at night). Because I'm the SAHP. Because he'll take them downstairs at 6/6.30 whilst I get an extra 30 minutes sleep in the week and as long I wa t of a weekend.

Well the golden rule is that he isn't management and you aren't staff. He wants it done differently, he does it. You do it, you decide.

Definitely! Mine were smaller than yours - about 3-4 months behind on clothing compared to age - but they had a milk whenever they wanted which in the day was often less than 3 hours apart and often much more volume than formula tin suggested. They'd soon let me know if it wasn't enough

Where are you getting the guidelines from? It is advised that you feed on demand. You can't make milk fed babies fat. Guidlines aren't instructions.

Did you have to be taught how to manage your first, because of health issues?
It's completely different with healthy babies.

Your DH could do with having it explained by a HV. The babies will carry body fat, at times, until they are children. It's a protective thing. One bout of vomiting/chest infection etc and they drop underweight, otherwise.

Babies are meant to have round tummies.

Also, the beauty of bottle feeding is that you can share the burden. He should be helping with night feeds.

Just feed them when they cry, as you are doing. Your husband is just going to add stress and screaming babies to your life if he insists that you wait longer between each feed. You can't over feed a baby. Keep doing what you're doing. You're doing a great job op.

Make an appt with the HV and bring him along. He can do the talking since he's the one with the issue.

Unless he is medically qualified in a relevant field, your dh is the exact opposite of an expert on this subject. Carry on as you are.