Bullying

[MrsAllenby]

So my 14 year old girl came to me and told me the girls at school who she was friends with for years are calling her telling her to commit suicide!
Don't no what to do shes terrified of me telling the school
Cant speak to the parents for the same reason
I really don't no what to do
Advice please

The school need to know. Contact her head of year. If your DD has received nasty texts or messages, take screenshots and be prepared to show them to the HoY. Please show your DD that you’re taking action to protect her.

It's good that your DD has told you about this.

You need to talk to her teachers about this tomorrow.

Call the police. And the school.

How disgusting - your poor DD what horrible nasty girls def tell Head of Year and anyone else. I’d prob tell their parents too if it was me! Hope your DD is ok x

I have made an appointment with head of school which didnt go down to well with my daughter

you are doing the right thing.

Make sure your daughter knows she absolutely did the right thing telling YOU.

@MrsAllenby - I really feel for you and yourDD. This is a horrible age - my DDs friendship group dropped her around that age and she was devastated but they didn’t say stuff like that which is shocking.

Agree you need to escalate this - if any of my DC was saying this to anyone I’d want to know and they would be severely dealt with. A word of caution though - there is a good chance they will turn it round to make your DD look somehow to blame - this is their MO. Happened to my DS - the bully said that DS said he hoped bully’s parents died in a fire so bully had “simply” responded - “I hope you die too” which was utter shite. There is likely to be a ringleader that other friends are scared of so will back up. Definitely speak to school. Your DD might resist/ be embarrassed but deep down she will see you have her back. Good luck.

I'm not sure that I would bother with school. I would take screenshots and report it immediately to the police. These bullies need to understand the seriousness of what they are doing.

I’m the idiot who voted YABU I didn’t read the OP properly and I meant YWBU not to tell school.

I’m sorry your DD is going through this, please definitely speak to school ASAP!

Wtf? Who raised these little shits? That is utterly disgusting. Your poor daughter.
Isnt there legislation about this or did I imagine it? Have they been texting or snapchatting this?

Thank you so much everyone
I definitely feel I'm doing the right thing going to the school now
If the school cant stop this then I will definitely have to report it to the police.

Who raised these little shits?

it might be you. Not all parents of bullies are horrible people. Jumping to conclusions is just as bad.

How’s things OP have the school said anything yet? Hope your DD is ok