Hotel choice of relatives.

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I'm going to the 65th birthday of my DF in a town on south coast.
My family want me to stay in a particular hotel. I don't want to stay there. I have valid reasons and no other family are staying in that hotel. I want to book a hotel further afield. I'm independent and pay all costs.

This will make things awkward as I always have to go along with their plans or appear like a petulant child. I'm sick of it and but do not wish to rock the boat. I just want to be able to make my own decisions. I'm 38 and have kids.

Aibu?

Tell them you've booked somewhere else already.

"Thank you for the suggestion but I've already booked a different hotel." Then change subject.

Still want to know why that hotel and why not stay (Just nosey)

Hotel is run by a friend of the family and he's an old flame and she doesn't want to meet him!
Hotel is run by an aunt/uncle she doesn't like!

I'm sick of it and but do not wish to rock the boat.

There's your issue right there. Rock the bloomin' boat - what is actually going to happen if you do?

‘I’m sorting my accommodation - you don’t need to worry.’

You're travelling for a party
They want you to stay at a hotel where no other family are

If you don't there'll be issues?

I'd book where I want but wouldn't mention it at all. If pushed and you want to avoid issues blame your dh booking it. Or say, I found a hotel I loved.

You don’t even need to tell them right ? How will they know where you’re staying if you’re booking and paying?

You're not unreasonable, you have your reasons so stick to your guns and book somewhere else for you and your children. Just don't tell your family.

Nobodies business but yours where you choose to stay.

OP you need to explain WHY they want you to stay in a hotel that no one else is staying in. Your post is half a story. And grow some. Seriously. Don't get into a conversation where they put you as a petulant child. Just book where you want and don't engage in a conversation about it

Just say 'yeah OK' and then totally ignore them and book your own hotel

I'm with @Greenpolkadot just fob them off OP, say "yep" alot and shrug your shoulders and then go stay in your preferred hotel. Don''t make their problem your problem.

You're a grown adult and you're worried about being seen as a petulant child by staying where you choose?

Do they have to provide you transportation to and from the hotel or something?

Assuming no, book where you want.

Thank you for all your comments. I will book my own hotel - you're very right and I needed this support. Thank you.

They just think that hotel is convenient and have been on phone about me leaving my car there and walking to the do and also about buses to the do from hotel.
They won't be happy that I'm not booking it.
But I going to go for it. I really don't want to stay there. It isn't very nice and is grubby.

I'll try and avoid the subject and poss give impression I am staying there, at the party. I'll play it by ear.

Don't lie. Lies usually come back to bite you and if you care for your family its not nice to lie to them. Just tell them you made your own arrangements.

Sod that - don't hide the fact you've stayed somewhere else. You don't need to be embarrassed about making your own decision. If they say anything (they might not) just say once that you're travelling X far and would rather stay somewhere nice, that's too dated/shit or whatever. If they called me a petulant child I'd tell them they were being controlling, I am able to make my own decisions and where I choose to spend my money has no impact on them!

Just tell the truth. That you will be more comfortable at your chosen hotel.

You're a grown-up now!

Why on earth would you go where they say? I don’t understand why you’ll look like a petulant child if you go elsewhere. Stay where you want.

Just book the hotel that you want to stay in.
You are a grown up, they don't own you.
It's none of their fucking business where you stay or where you park.

If you don't want to be treated like a child, just don't behave like one.
Imagine they were work colleagues, not family. You would just inform them about the hotel YOU chose, book it and stay breezy about it.

If the rest of your party prefers another hotel, they don't need you to book it? Do they feel they must book same hotel as yours? Then they need to grow up.

Don't sweat it.