To find it so hard to stay positive

[Wombleofwimbledon1984]

My DH has had a long history of employment issues, the latest for 6 months (being let go last time almost coincided with my getting pregnant for the first time. A month ago though he landed his dream job. We were all set to move to a bigger place and were starting to look forward to the future. Then the job fell through and we found out that our baby has a serious disorder that is associated with a whole range of mental and physical symptoms.
I feel like I can’t see a future. We have hardly any money and now a possibly disabled kid on the way. It’s just been four years of really awful luck. We’re not even asking for that much! Just a bog standard normal life.
I just wanted to moan. I’m fed up of people banging on about corona virus or that their kid didn’t get their first choice of school. I used to be an optimistic person and now I’ve just fallen into a huge hole.
Sorry for such a moan, I think I just want sympathy from strangers.

((((((big virtual hug))))))

No wonder you're finding it hard to channel your inner Pollyanna!

Very very sorry to hear this. I really hope your luck will change and your DH will get a new job!

I'm so sorry you are feeling like this. Also it must be really hard coming to terms with the challenges that you will face as parents to a child with disabilities. But you will be fine and get through this.
I am feeling pretty low atm too and have some long term health problems on top of dealing with property problems and being a mum.. but I find I have ok days too where I feel more optimistic about stuff. Other days I just feel like crying all day long. Do you have ups and downs or is it mainly just down? You should speak to your midwife too xxx

So sorry to hear that. Hang in there. One day at a time I hope things get better for you and your family.
Life can be shit for no good reason sometimes x

Sorry to hear this OP. I've had really shitty luck over the last 5 years, including, but not limited to: having to sell our house for financial reasons, having a stillborn baby, having no money and needing to go on benefits, came off benefits but life is still financially shit. Sometimes I can't see the light. It's hard

That sounds shitty OP. I can understand how difficult it must be to feel positive.
Are you getting support from healthcare professionals and loved ones?

Try to be kind to each other and remain tight. Facing life as a team is so important for you right now.

I’m sorry so many others on this post have had such god-awful luck. I just feel like I’m at the end of my tether in terms of coping and can’t really see a way out of it all.

DH is also taking it really hard and is quiet a lot with a face like thunder which I find it hard to cope with.

Midwife has been really rubbish - we didn’t find out about the defect until week 25 because the hospital had delayed scans unnecessarily. Am trying to get transferred to another hospital.

Family thought we should terminate fairly vocally but are now being supportive. Difficult to rely on them now as I feel like they are judging. Overall a shit situation. I know others have it worse but I am just not a very resilient person and can feel myself breaking.

Hi Womble,

You've had a really shit time; of course you're not unreasonable to find it hard to stay positive. Remember though that things change- you will love your baby and raise him/her to reach their full potential; your DP will find work again- things look hopeless at the moment but they won't look that way forever.