NC for this as I know a few of my friends are MNetters.
I’m not sure if it’s being being U or if I just have useless friends.
It was a big birthday of mine a couple of weeks ago and only half of who I thought were my friends came to my party last weekend. Others had really poor excuses like they were just seeing other friends. I thought they were just going to come and surprise me, but they just didn’t turn up at all.
I’ve been really excited as we have just moved house too and have sent a few messages about it but got no reply. I was hoping at least some of them would want to come round and see it. No one has asked me how it’s going or anything, I feel like I have to chase them to even get any conversation.
It’s only been this way for the last few months and before that everything was amazing, we would talk often and see each other every other week or so. Now it’s just gone dead. I feel so isolated and lonely. These people have been my friends for 20+ years and now I feel like I have no one.
It definitely feels like I’ve done or said something wrong. Maybe I was too excited about moving? Maybe I seemed braggy? Although I was conscious of what I said and how because I know some of them struggle financially so I didn’t want to seem like I was bragging.
I would normally just speak my mind and bring up issues right away, but this situation has got me feeling so stuck. I’m worried if I bring it up then they’ll distance themselves even more. If that’s even possible.
AIBU to expect some level of communication or should I just cut my losses and realise they’re not friends? I feel so lost.