To take teenagers phones off them overnight on school nights?

[sweetkitty]

Said teenagers are 15 and 14yo. On school nights we take their phones off them at bedtime. We actually found out DD1 was sneaking spare phones into her room and using them SIM only so now I unplug the modem and take it to bed with me.

If we don’t they would be on their phones/iPads all night until 2-3am at least. How are they supposed to get up and function at school the next day?

We have a compromise that on holidays/weekends they can have them overnight.

Apparently no one else does this we are far too strict etc etc. From speaking to other parents some take them away some trust them to self regulate. Mine won’t self regulate and will stay up far too long on them.

I know there will be a point 16/18?? when I’ll have to trust them to self regulate as they will be adults and if they stay up too late they will suffer the consequences the next day.

So AIBU?

Yep 9pm here with 14 y old. Bla bla no one else has to ...

Tried self regulation eg all phones in study at night. Mixed results. Teens are 14 and 17. 14 puts hers on airplane mode at night, self regulation works for her. 17 is screen addict so WiFi goes off at midnight as I can't trust him to detach from phone. He could still go on data but its a start.
I leave my phone downstairs at night to set an example.

Love how most kids tell their parents that they are the meanest/strictest ones!
I'd take the phones off them at weekends as well. 2;30 am is just ridiculous, even for weekend nights.

We try and get our children's phones off them at 8:30 pm and they don't like it. A constant battle. I like the idea of what another poster said, about them automatically stopping working!

I teach this age. You are being very good caring parents. Your kids' exam results will be higher in Y11. I have some terribly sleep deprived students, and it's their phones in their rooms overnight.

Yep school days all gadgets out. My DS cannot self regulate either.

Yes, phones out of rooms. Stand firm. I’m a secondary teacher and I have kids that can’t stay awake as they’ve been up until 3am messaging other kids.
They can’t concentrate in class due to the lack of sleep. It’s not good.
I take my own childrens’ phones and just say that I care that’s why I do it. They can tell their friends that I’m a strict parent.

My 13yr old DS doesn't have his phone or console in his room overnight.

DD has always been very good at self regulating so never had to take hers (still did around exam time though). DS wasn't too bad, and was always up on time etc (definitely took his around any kind of exam or assessment periods). 1

Hiiii I know this thread is old but I was reading through for suggestions on how to manage my teens phone obsession. It dawned on me as this chat was before covid hit, how we just didn't know what was ahead. 😫i was wondering how did you get on since you started the thread? Any tips? I too am having issues managing my daughters phone. I have taken the phone away at night times but to be honest the melt downs she has scare me lol. Please don't judge. Apparently I'm the only one who takes the phone (I believe this ) and I'm the only parent who still enforces a bed time (I don't think 10pm , 10.30 pm is early for a 15 year old who has to get up and go to school) . I keep explaining to her in the hope it sinks in that staying up till 1 am is not good for her and we all need to rest but I literally could be speaking to the wall. I know why the other parents don't speak up, they can't be bothered or don't see it as a big deal which is fine I can't and don't judge but it would be helpful if at least some of the parents also spoke up then they'd all have to listen and come off their phones and get to bed. This phone issue isn't just at night. It's in the day time too, to the point that said kid can't function. Ive tired talking to her and apparently setting boundaries should do the trick, it hasn't, ive tried shouting and cutting the screen time on the handset but this doesn't work either , ive tried to give scary looks when the phone beeps but she doesn't even notice me! What can I do when it's Snapchat against little old me?