Stupid bluetack argument

[JasonBrun]

Sorry this is a really stupid one but I can't work out if IABU or not.

I am in my study cutting out pattern peices (bits of nice fabric for some baby clothes I am making) when my husband comes in.
He wants to put up a poster that he bought me, so I find him the bluetack and we start making little bluetack balls (I can't believe I'm writing this out it's so stupid). Obviously all my fabric is still everywhere though, and he is standing over it. He can be a bit careless. So I said to him "be careful of my pattern peices". And now he's kicked off and he's stormed off. And apparently bluetack wouldn't ever damage fabric (it's knock-off and it's really greasy) and I'm just trying to cause an argument by saying that to him.

And now I'm really upset and I can't work out if I was causing a fight or its an unreasonable thing to say or what. I'm finding it harder to talk to him all the time and harder to see straight what's happening.

My OH gets narked when I ask him to please wait a mo before he sits because for the umpteenth time in a week he's about to sit on something of mine - paperwork, artwork, fragile things

Sorry - but I'd have to say stop leaving things where people sit. Get a desk or something.

OP it would appear PP is right and the fight obviously wasn't about the blue tac but other bigger issues in your lives.

Has your OH had counselling for PTSD?

PTSD or not, his behaviour is abusive. You appear to be walking on eggshells.

He's the one with the problem here. He goes to get it sorted, if he isn't doing this already, or you split.

Because this isn't a good way for your DS to live, or your new baby when born.

Your poor ds, I'm so sorry OP, you've got to stop this from happening. Your partner may be suffering from PTSD but he must know, when he's not in a rage, that that is no way to talk to you or your son. The damage could last a lifetime. You are an adult, you can make the decision to leave to protect yourself. Who is protecting your son?

Swearing at your DS is dreadful. Really horrible, unacceptable behaviour.

PTSD might be a reason but it isn't an excuse. It doesn't make the effect on the child any easier to tolerate, or more acceptable.

The blu-tac thing, i can see why he was annoyed - he hadn't done anything wrong, he was trying to do something nice, you responded with a default 'you're about to cause a problem, don't'. But, his reaction was disproportionate and not ok.