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People with a bad cough in cafes

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reallyagain · 03/03/2020 12:51

I would have thought it might be a good idea for someone with a bad cough to maybe not sit in a busy cafe coughing their head off (not to mention not covering their mouths). It's not great at the best of times, but seems really stupid and antisocial now.

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PumpkinP · 03/03/2020 12:52

I’ve noticed so many people no longer cover their mouth them they cough in public.

PumpkinP · 03/03/2020 12:53

Them Confused when*

Cocobean30 · 03/03/2020 12:53

YANBU, it’s gross 🤮

reallyagain · 03/03/2020 12:53

So unpleasant especially knowing whatever they cough out can travel 10 feet, nice!

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DecemberSnow · 03/03/2020 12:55

Hate the not covering your mouth.

Im 50 50 for the cough.

I had a horrendous cough. Pneumonia
I had 3 lots of antibiotics for it in 5 weeks, then my chest was clear and the dr said it will linger for weeks possible months.
It was bad, i sounded awful. I didnt go to places like that for 7 or 8 weeks but once my chest was clear, i had to go back out.
I was in a shop buying a card and someone said nastily how i shouldnt be out infected people....
I wasn't infectious....

On the other hand, this person could of been, it is hard....

RocketFire · 03/03/2020 12:58

whats the difference between a cough and a 'bad' cough here?

Hingeandbracket · 03/03/2020 13:00

I had a terrible cough as a side effect of prescription medicines - I did cover my mouth though. It had nothing to do with viruses.

reallyagain · 03/03/2020 13:02

I guess when I say 'bad', it wasn't something caught in his throat for example, he lost have coughed circa 20 times in the short time I saw him, before I upped and left

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KittenVsBox · 03/03/2020 13:04

DS had a cough ALL winter last year. It went on for months. Should we not have left the house??

I have a lingering "whoop" from a childhood infection. Any type of cold, and my cough is awful. I will continue to go out if the rest of me is fine, thank you. I do cover my mouth (with my elbow) tho.

Strawberrypancakes · 03/03/2020 13:05

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reallyagain · 03/03/2020 13:06

That's the difference though, covering your mouth. For adults to sit coughing repeatedly near other people and their food without any such efforts is surely at best antisocial at He the current time

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Tfoot75 · 03/03/2020 13:10

I feel like there's a bit of a stigma over coughing now. I have asthma and often have a bad cough for a few weeks after a virus. Luckily I don't at the moment as would probably think twice about going anywhere due to other people judging. In my experience from myself and my children, the cough is usually after you'd expect the infectious phase has finished (ie no temperature, sneezing etc stopped) but we don't really know do we, as some viruses the cough is the main symptom!

LindaSmithfanclub · 03/03/2020 13:13

My brother has a disease called bronchiectasis that he developed after suffering pneumonia. The only symptom is that he coughs a lot because his lungs are in overdrive producing gunk. It's not infected (he has a sputum test once a month) and he can't spread any infection to you. He's incredibly self-conscious about it and it's put him off going out, because people look at him like he has the plague. He hasn't, this is just how he's going to be for the rest of his life.

Now you know this, perhaps you could be a little more compassionate?

reallyagain · 03/03/2020 13:15

But I'm guessing that the vast majority of people don't have this?

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newyearsresolution2010 · 03/03/2020 13:17

I've had a cough for a week now, it's a chest infection. I've got antibiotics and it's getting better but I still have to cough. Sometimes it's once an hour, sometimes it could be several times an hour. Strong smells (air-freshener/perfume) causes it to be worse.
I'm not going to stay in though, I cover my mouth when I cough.
The not covering mouth thing is not okay, but they are allowed to go outside.

StepAwayFromGoogle · 03/03/2020 13:20

I've got a cough. I'm still going out, I'm still sitting in cafes, I'm still coughing. Don't need anyone's permission to do that. I do, however, cough into my elbow. Anyone who doesn't do that mings.

DecemberSnow · 03/03/2020 13:24

Having an infection, being on antibiotics, being contagious, and still going out into places like a cafe is wrong.

If i catch an infection, im normally in hospital

TARSCOUT · 03/03/2020 13:26

I have had a cough for 3 years now. It is a side effect of medication
I do cover my mouth but I wont be staying indoors or out of cafes

randomsabreuse · 03/03/2020 13:27

I've got a nasty cough at the moment. Lingering after a cold one of the DC brought home - with the traditional snotty nose that colds (and not corona) tend to cause. DC2 has had a cough pretty well the entire winter. GP and practice nurse say largely normal with sibling in school and is also not unusual in DC with early history of bronchiolitis.

LindaSmithfanclub · 03/03/2020 13:29

I think bronchiectasis is surprisingly common, actually. As soon as my brother started talking about it others with it came out of the woodwork.

He can't/ won't go to the cinema or the theatre or anything like that. He had a terrible coughing fit at his daughter's Christmas concert last year and someone was incredibly rude to him, so he has now decided he won't attend any event unless he can sit right by a door and escape the minute a coughing fit hits him.

He covers his mouth, he carries cough lozenges, he has packets of clean tissues in every pocket. It's horrible to listen to him coughing his guts up but it's even worse to be him.

Oh, and for the record, he's never touched a cigarette and before the pneumonia got him he was running 30km a week.

ZarkingBell · 03/03/2020 13:37

I have a bad cough. I have asthma and most winters I cough for months on end. Sometimes it's bad, sometimes it's just annoying. I'm rarely contagious but I do cough into my arm (or a tissue on gunkier days) 99% of the time. Sometimes I have things in my hands - like a tray with hot drinks on - which make coughing into my arm impossible.

For years I have 'self-isolated' a great deal, as I know how anxious people can get, but it's simply not possible week in, week out, every year. And that does sometimes involve stopping for a coffee after I've been somewhere as I'm usually too knackered to go straight back.

If your fear is coronavirus I'm far more at risk than most people are. Are you in the worried 80% well? If so, read some proper public health guidance and chill. If you are in the 20%, yes, winter's a fucking nightmare but I'm not going into full lock down until I'm told to.

Konicek007 · 03/03/2020 13:38

This is really scary now.
Even my husband who is Normally never ever scared Of anything said it’s now seriously worrying.

ManonBlackbeak · 03/03/2020 13:46

On Sunday we were out having lunch at a restaurant and there an elderly man who coughed continually. Really loud hacking coughs as well. Everyone was eying him up suspiciously, however IMO seeing as he was obviously in his 80’s I highly doubt he had Coronavirus if he was sat in a restaurant drinking lager and eating a three course meal!

Hobbesmanc · 03/03/2020 13:49

I developed a really irritating persistent cough as a side effect to a blood pressure medication that lasted weeks. Lets not start stigmatising perfectly healthy people please

MindyStClaire · 03/03/2020 13:57

Yup, I'm another asthmatic who spends the winter coughing. Had a bad run from September to Christmas and didn't stop. Difficult as I'm a lecturer and it makes speaking hard.

If I don't have a fever and I feel well enough to go out to work or to socialise then I will. Obviously everyone should cover their mouth when they cough regardless of pandemics, but if I stayed home for every cough I'd never bloody leave.

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