To ask how often...

[SprinkledWithSugar]

You’d expect a man to initiate contact in early stages of dating. Need to know if I’m being unreasonable or not.

Been talking for a few weeks, one date and next planned for the weekend.

Did you meet online?

You'll be told on here that it should be both your responsibility. But in RL if a man is really interested and not just using you for something to do, he'll get in touch.

Some men will hang around and go on enough dates that he hopes sex will happen.

Yes people are busy, but I'd say he'd be in touch every couple of days, three maximum.

Same as pp if a guy is interested he will contact you at least every other day.. Simple 'good morning' texts means he's thinking of you. The difference between my dh communication from when he wasnt interested (or in denial at least) to when he was is massive.. Easily could tell the difference.

I'd expect a message every evening at this point just to ask about how your day was.

I would have said daily, before when messages cost money when I last dated 😂. Now at least daily, depending on your responses more

You've got a date arranged, right?

Go and enjoy your date and see what comes of it.

The opposite of what Ponoka said, actually.
According to MN men should make all the effort.

You have a date arranged.
If you want to talk to him in the meantime, text him ffs. You won't turn into a pumpkin for making the first move.

If you have a date arranged then every other day or once a day would be fine until then.. If you was messaging constantly what would you have to talk about on the date? That's how I would see it I wouldn't personally be bothered if it wasn't constant back and forth messaging I'd rather talk face to face and have something to chat about on the actual date

So much of this depends on the man, I don’t think it’s worth over thinking, although it can be easy to do so.

Some people call and text every day, others it’s every 3 days.

I’m 6 weeks in to a relationship and we text every day but at the start it was every other/third day. We knew we had a date planned and he is more of a functional texted than an emotional one. I’m a bigger texted than him so wanted more contact.

Wouldn’t expect contact after the next date has been set.

I dont think there's a set timetable. Plus one of you may be a frequent texter/caller, one of you may not.

Does it feel as though he's seeking you out? Interested? Making plans to see you?

Alternatively do you feel you have to bsttle for his attention?

@ponoka7

You clearly only go for players... it's massively unreasonable to lump all men in together and all women in together. I texted my bf first. 2 years later i guess he's only still with me for something to do?

Thanks everyone, my thoughts were every 2 or 3 days too.

I don’t feel like he’s seeking me out or really that interested. I sent him a picture message on Friday - not of me - of the place I was in that day, he sent a generic reply but didn’t ask if I’d had a nice day or anything. And haven’t heard from him since then.