What do you do during football season?

[Floomingfootball]

I didn’t come from a football supporting family.

Thinking about it my parents didn’t really watch tele and that was expected the same for us kids.

My partner has just moved in and all he seems to do is watch football. Doesn’t matter what game he wants to watch it, plus match of the day, plus anything on sky sports.

I know I could still be pottering around - I’m not sure what I used to do in the evenings but the tv was rarely on. He’s suggested that if I want to watch something he doesn’t mind wanting something on his phone.

It’s a small house, and him in the lounge (I could sit with him, he doesn’t make me sit in silence or whatever).

I know there’s hundreds if not thousands of other women like this. What do you do?

I watch more football than my DH

Whatever I want. Go have a bath. Read a book. Mess about on my phone. Watch Netflix and one of us will wear headphones. Play with the dog. Paint my nails. The usual waste time things, regardless of what is on.

He does the same when something is on that I want to watch and he doesn’t.

Turn it off and watch a real sport, rugby.

My partner doesn't spend all his spare time watching football when I'm around because that would be rude and unsociable.

I would love to know the answer to this too! Unfortunately a football widow, its always on the tv, radio, on in the bsvkground etc and he goes away to watch games every Saturday too! :/

I ask him to turn it down (the noise of the football match with all the constant cheering and the monotone commentary absolutely does my head in) and sit in the living room and read, sew or knit. Or sit in the dining room and either take our edit a photo. Sometimes I go to bed early. He doesn't watch it as much as your partner though so it's not a massive problem here.

Sorry that sounded really shitty, I didn't mean it to. Massive headache.

I watch more football than my DH too, in fact he doesn't watch football at all! He tends to just need about on his computer, go do his hobby or just sit and watch it with me and the kids if he can't find anything else to do

I embraced it and started watching it.

I enjoy it now 😊

@Rockylove

I sometimes wonder if the point of having him live here.

I don’t like wasting my evenings. If I was to go out (which I used to do a lot before he moved in) we’d never bloody see each other as it’s constant.

@SimonJT

I prefer rugby too

I'm the only football fan in this house. I go to watch football most weeks but I don't actually watch much on TV because I love my family and want to spend most of the rest of my leisure time with them.

Its not like when there was one game a week on TV, any considerate football fan will choose his most important games rather than want to watch them all.

Was he prioritising watching football over being with you before he moved in?

@elder

He’s always bloody loved it but I never realised it’s on all bloody week. I thought it was just every other weekend or whatever.

I'm lucky as I live with dh and two sons and they all don't watch much sport at all and don't follow football ! I think it would drive me mad as it's bad enough when it's the Euros or World Cup ( which they do watch or the England games at least , which is odd as they don't watch any other football games)
Could you buy another small tv for your bedroom and watch your own programmes in there? Read a book?
I hate most sport on tv so I can sympathise : plus I'm dreading the Euros this year as the normal tv channels are just wall to wall football for four weeks and you can't get away from it , like it or not!
I'll be contributing to the aibu ' hating the football ' threads this year!

I take DS and DD to their football training and matches.
I watch more footy in TV than anyone else in our house now, never used to like it but I understand it a bit more since watching the kids play.

Dh’s obsession with watching football has been a big factor in killing off our marriage. it’s the only thing he cares about. It’s pathetic

@SpeedofaSlotif we have kids I’m not encouraging football.

Obviously I won’t stop any kids from having a kick about with their mates but I won’t be enrolling them at 2 and encouraging them support a team.

I go to the cinema, watch Netflix, cook -stuff for me.

I would talk to him though,ask him to regulate how much he watches, do something together.
Prioritise you're relationship.
He doesn't need to watch every game

I think you need to talk to him and explain how it makes you feel. Explain you don’t want to be a football widow. Compromise - ie okay to watch it on Saturdays, but not every evening,

Watch with him! In more recent years we have started (restarted for DH) going to as many matches as we can and I am as ardent a fan as he ever has been.

I have a season ticket for my team. I love football. My oh isn’t bothered by it 🤷🏻‍♀️

You could always ask him if you could watch something else/ start watching box sets together? My OH will watch football every night if it’s on ( in addition to having a season ticket for his team), but equally he’s happy to watch something else if I suggest that.

If there is nothing else on and the football is on then we both sit in the lounge and I:

• work on my laptop
• surf internet on iPad
• do a jigsaw
• read

He sounds really boring/obsessive and you sound incompatible I'm sorry to say! What's the point of him being there if all he does is watch football?

Could you get wireless headphones so the noise doesn't disturb you and you can do your normal activities while he's watching?