Once a cheat... ?

[WhoKnowsAnymore]

Is it true? Asking for obvious reasons.

It happened about five years or so ago. He's been very remorseful, and has utterly turned around. I'd go as far to say he is now a very good husband. Has done everything and more to put our marriage right again. etc etc.

However, I keep reading about all these repeats of behaviour.
Is this always the case? Has anyone known any different?

YABU - to trust him, It WILL happen again
YANBU - your marriage can stay this way, mine did / I know of...

He was honest with you. He is selfish. That doesn't mean he won't do it again (I'd say it makes it more likely, personally).

For most people, it's a taboo. So crossing the line for the first time is a big taboo breaking exercise. Once you've actually done it, and lived a double life, you see how incredibly easy it is to do and get away with. Really really really easy. It's even easier if you set out to cheat (rather than the meeting someone at work scenario) as you can meet people online and just get away for a few hours every now and then. Too easy not to do. The only thing stopping people is their own code of right and wrong, and fear of getting caught/consequences. That fear is much less second time around and the skillset is higher.

You can never be sure but if you move on you can never be sure with anyone new anyway. How many men on OLD for example are on there because they have been chucked out for cheating! A fair few I reckon.

You know what he's capable of. He might never cheat again but you will need to be able to live with the idea that he's capable of it and that only he controls whether or not he cheats again.
So it's up to you whether you want to live with that.

so,
I recently found out my partner of 7 years has been sexting and exchanging pics/videos with them (masturbating). There was like 20+ women.
this started when I was pregnant with my second and he says it’s because we was constantly arguing and I was constantly kicking him out/splitting up (for a day or two). Now I feel like it genuinely was my fault because we have been bad for some time but he claims he loves me and wants no one else but then 5 mins after we argue/split he messages someone else?
bedore we had kids he did also cheat then but it was actual physical cheating. I thought things were getting better but clearly not. He said he never met anyone or made a connection but surely it’s still cheating/not right?
pelase someone give me some insight advice, I feel like it’s my fault