to not cook for him any more?

[SidekickSally]

I am at my wits end and absolutely raging. My DH has always had an issue with stuff I cook, I think it's his little power over me. I don't know why as everything else is fine.
This evening he decided he didn't like the roast potatos I cooked any more. He's had them so many time before. Also, has "gone off" the pudding I cooked. Again, why now suddenly.
No more, no fucking more.
I only cook at the weekends for him now due to this bollocks behaviour but now it's going to be zero. I will cook for me and the kids who do appreciate it.

I stopped cooking for my dh when he didn’t want what I’d cooked. He puts in 0 effort when it comes to meal planning and never cooks and I’ve had enough. It’s not a restaurant. He can have some if he wants to but I won’t be sorting anything else for him.

Yanbu. Does he cook for you all sometimes?

Why do you think he is trying to have power over you? This sounds like it is about more than the food!

I am an incredibly fussy eater and go off random food all the time (weirdly roast potatoes recently) but dp would not think this is a power play.

If it's honestly the only issue then just stop cooking for him. But look out for other things.

Igotthemheavyboobs - I don't know why I think it's a power thing but he knows it really gets to me. He used to do it all the time, he'd suddenly go off something that we'd have regularly - after a while it really starts to grate. I'd never do that to him. If I've gone off something I'd eat it and very diplomatically explain that it's now disagreeing with me or something, especially if he's gone to the trouble of cooking. He very rarely cooks for us. I don't know, it's hard to explain but I can't continue to 2nd guess what he likes or doesn't like any more.

Why is it your job to cook for everyone? Does he have some kind of disability preventing him from cooking? Are you financially restricted as a family meaning he can't get himself a sandwich?!

YABU to play his stupid game for so long. Direct him to the bread.

The relationship sounds awful though, does he show respect for you in other areas of life?

Booberella9 - I am not playing this stupid game, that's exactly what it feels like. No reason why I should cook apart from that I used to actually enjoy cooking, but the joy has been sucked out of it.

Relationship is OK in other ways, he respects me, we get on, we have a laugh, I can trust him implicitly.

I think this is his weird quirk and he can stick it where the sun doesn't shine.

I'm on the fence on this one, but probably because I don't understand why it is only you that does the cooking. That is making me think yanbu.

But I just couldn't eat something I didn't like, I have cooked myself meals, eaten a few mouthfuls and then had to chuck it. I have really weird issues with textures. Luckily dp understands that, although I really try, I just can't do it. We share the cooking so it isn't just one of us being inconvenienced, plus I would just make myself something else, not expect dp to cook another meal.

I would never tolerate that behaviour from a grown man.