Suddenly Feeling very down.Help me decide the cause.

[whatisforteamum]

I do have several threads on here so I know someone will point this out.
Normally I am a highly motivated chatty bubbly person.Upbeat and doing a million things at once.
Today and recently I see little point in doing much.Some days I don't get dressed..what's the point.
I normally love my job but issues of near bullying/ostracism have lessened the fun for me.
I booked this w end off for our 33 year anniversary.I never get a ends off.DH knows this and said he had golf!
I pointed out it would be nice to spend it away or out.He went golfing and drinking all day and night so now he is catching up with chores he needs to do for work monday.
He has offered an afternoon out but most things shut early sunday.
I also had a recent.HR T change which I understand progesterone can affect mood.
I've been unable to do anything alone drive or go on public transport for a couple of years due to panic attacks caused by perimenopause which no gp said it was down to.
I feel very isolated now DD has left home .
Which do you think is bringing my motivation down? I can't help thinking it is my job?

I think it sounds like you don’t have an escape from all the stuff going on and nothing to really look forward to . If you had something arranged say every Saturday where you were getting to do something you enjoyed either alone or with people you like to spend time with it might help give you something to look forward to . I’m feeling very down right now myself and like you it’s a combination of different situations all niggling at me.

Sounds like a combination of triggers.

See your GP again about your hrt. Low mood and not being able to go out alone are hugely life altering and need treatment.

Look for small buffers to improve your days. A coffee, cinema trip (this afternoon?), a glass of wine, a trip to ok forward to.

Look seriously at your options around work when you have the energy? Perhaps even consider getting signed off for a while to clear your head and work on getting better.

Get outside every single day. Make social connections when you can. Talk to your friends- many of mine have had difficulties in peri menopause and menopause, it’s helpful to share.

Best wishes for feeling better soon.

Thank you both.I can't do things like cinema etc alone or should I say I haven't due to anxiety in many years.
I miss going shopping alone!! I used to pop out and buy bits for th e kids and home and generally window shop.The n dd left home and df died while I was already struggling with anxiety.
The anxiety has lessened now but I haven't had the nerve to drive.Even though I drove for over 30 yrs no accidents.
Yes perhaps the GP is a good start.I'm begining to feel like a burden to others and my personality is changing which I don't like.!

Chickenpox sorry you are struggling too.Have you got help yourself?

I think I need some time to myself this is part of my problem work in a job where I’m surrounded by people and then after work and at weekends rarely get time to do anything I like or enjoy due to different reasons and I’m the type of person who can’t deal with too much social interaction after a lot of it I feel drained and angry .

Yes me too! Work 10/1030pm with teens.I love my own company and do love my 2 days off alone.That said all work and no play isn't ideal either.I feel suffocated spending too much time with others.I retreat to my own room.

I can see.why some people suddenly become who suicidal.It isn't one thing but a multitude that makes them feel alone or unsupported.