AIBU husband not considering my emotional needs

[Ilovethekitties]

I have a two month old and my life has changed. I love my son, but it's hard sometimes. I'm exhausted and spend my days cleaning, playing with my son, trying to see family, studying for an exam and trying to adopt a healthier lifestyle.

I have binge eating disorder and I have really been struggling lately but despite feeling stressed I have been able to not seek comfort in food. I do not want an emotional outlet I learned from my father to be passed down to my son.

I have also had the implant, so everything it a bif hypersensitive at the moment and I am getting teary on occasion and just need to vent.

My husband is a very emotionally closed off person, who doesnt understand my reliance on food for comfort and just thinks I'm greedy. He also doesn't talk about his emotional at all. I'm not particularly emotional myself and he has before complained that I'm quite closed off.

I was having a cry this morning, just feeling a bit overwhelmed, and his response was, 'you know, it's so difficult to go to work and come home to this emotion, I really dont need it'. I'm really sad that since having our son, he doesnt seem to have any spare energy. He then went for a shower, leaving me upset.

AIBU to think I should be able to vent to my husband and he shouldn't make me feel bad about it?

Am I supposed to just cry alone and have no one to talk to?

I'm really sad that since having our son, he doesnt seem to have any spare energy.

It doesn’t sound like you do either. But this is what it’s like to be new parents. You need to have a chat where you basically agree to put any judgment, anger or disappointment on hold because neither of you are in a fit place to judge anything. Instead you need to work out the minimum that you both need from each other to get by and discuss this sensible and agree to work by it until you reach less stressful times.

It’s hard having a small baby-competitive tiredness can creep in!

Good communication is important though-try to talk to each other about how you’re both feeling. Tell him he’s upset you by saying that but try to find out why he said it? Is he stressed being the sole wage earner? Is he feeling left out? Is work stressful at the moment? You should be able to tell him how you feel, yes.