Sleeping and kissing

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I just need some opinions on last night, I went to sleep and was fully sleeping, I woke up to being kissed by my partner and I was kissing back when I woke, he then touched me and we had sex. This morning I've woke up and I'm confused to how this started did I start the kissing , did he?
When I asked him last night he said he doesn't know either.
I just feel odd, I don't know why.
Can someone help me understand this please!

He probably woke up horny and thought he’d try it on. If you didn’t want it you would of said no and if he carried on you would of raised your voice surely. I don’t see this as rape but I do see it as disrespectful.

@PrettyLittleLiar20 I don't see it as rape either, I'm just confused, been together 7 years and this has never happened. I'm currently spotting all the time aswell and he would usually ask how the bleeding is before starting anything so it makes me think I started it

I used to do this all the time! It’s like me and my partner started having sex in our sleep. I liked it. It was with my full consent though once I realised what was happening.

Not sure anyone on mn can help you understand it if neither of you know who started the kissing

I took it as a sign of our closeness to be honest. We’d both laugh about it the next day

Sounds nice to me

This is the way we start having sex 90% of the time.

We go to bed. Ate too tired to even try

Get sleepy. Go to sleep in a cuddly position and in our sleep state one of us takes the hug a bit further

It depends on the dynamics of your relationship, how it made you feel, what he actually did etc...

For us a sleepy kiss turns into more.

If I woke up with him doing something to me and he was obviously trying not to wake me up and getting off in that it would be over.

Only you can assess the situation

@MrsGrindah it was nice I just can't understand how it's happened
To be honest I think I started it and reading your comments makes me feel better, it just shocked me to be honest.
I guess I'm just overthinking it

Same here as GMAILFAIL. We regularly drop off to sleep whilst cuddling, then one or both of us initiate a sleepy kiss in night and end up having sleepy sex then go back to sleep. We both love it. However, we’ve discussed it and agreed we both consent to being kissed/touched etc whilst asleep, and both agree we enjoy this a lot.

@RitmoRatmo it was so nice, felt extra sensitive bro half asleep, I just hope I'm not some sort of sex pest in my sleep. He always says I'm very close to him when I am and that he has to push me out of the way

Bro = being
don't know how that happened stupid phone

Myself and an ex both woke up during sex. We didn't know how it started. I know I was definitely asleep and his reactions told me he was too. We laughed it off in our case but I can see how others may be concerned about it.

Me and my husband often start having sex whilst asleep and wake up at some point during it... We both laugh about it,

I have also tried it on with him whilst he's been asleep ( he doesn't mind) and vice versa

This happened a few months ago with my DP, he's pretty sure he was having a dirty dream about me and thought it was real.
I woke quite early on to him stripping off his pjs but it took him until he was trying to get inside me to actually wake up. He was incredibly embarrassed about it all but it was no big deal to me as he would never attempt anything disgusting or against my will.

Last night I woke to him pulling at my chest trying to find our baby which we had both apparently 'lost' during the night. She was fast asleep in her Moses basket but we both dreamed I had her on my chest and we thought she might be suffocating from imaginary co-sleeping . So I'd happily take the first scenario of how he wakes me up 😄

My dp is a sleep sexer he also eats walks talks in his sleep. Sometimes I tell him to go back to sleep sometimes I don't. I don't mind as I can tell he's asleep if I'm up for it I wake him before carrying on though it would be weird not to.