Photos of children

[Doubledeckers]

First AIBU on here but IRL I have been told by DP and DM that IABU about this. There is a closed Facebook group for one of DD’s activities where information about future sessions and photos of the activities are posted. Some parents have said that they do not want their child’s photo on there. Fine. Children are 7-10 yrs old.
For those where the parents have given consent some of the photos are great and highlight the fun they’re having, some mundane and some really unflattering. The children have no say on what is posted on Facebook and I don’t think it’s fair. Their photo is being shared for the parents to see what a great time the children are having, and I understand that, but I wouldn’t want my photo on Facebook when I’m in a bad mood, looking bedraggled and just generally having no control of what is going on Facebook.
I always ask my DD if I can post a photo of her on Facebook and show what is being posted. The children in this activity don’t have that option. My DP and DM tell me I’m a killjoy and that the parents enjoy seeing the photos of what their children have been doing and I’d be a spoilsport to ask for the children to decide what goes on Facebook. AIBU

I agree, there needs to be more unflattering photos online in general if you're into putting photos online or allowing them. All this picture perfect shit is bloody weird.

I also think it's weird to look at photos of kids and say outloud that they're unflattering, to the point they shouldn't be shown to offend the eyes as well mind.

If you don't want your kids photos on there then fine. But natural photos are essential when showing activities. Not everything is shiny and posed with stupid filters.

*I agree with a PP that is

What is the consequence in later life for having ones grumpy childhood face on the internet?

I suppose there could be consequences for the mental health of the child involved, it's OK to not want photos of yourself online that you don't want isn't it?

I’m not sure you haven’t got that back to front.

If we insta filter all photos then yes an unflattering one that slips through might upset someone’s MH. If the world is flooded with them and so we all look normal then perhaps we all benefit. It is the comparison that upsets I think.

And you can be upset about pictures of yourself online as an adult but there are literally no laws against people taking pictures in any public place they like and posting them wherever they like.