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Ex picking DD up off the back of a bender

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Bowzer · 29/02/2020 14:27

After being asked, he admitted that he was drinking/taking coke until 7am Sunday and was here to collect DD at 10am.

It’s absolutely none of my business what he does outside of DD but I am really angry at him for driving with her (30/40 minute journey) in a state. He has admitted that this wasn’t the first time and he sees no wrong in it as it’s during his ‘free time’ and not when he is actually with DD.

I would like to tell him he can’t see DD unsupervised but I know he wouldn’t see her at all and I also know there is no way he could afford to take me to court if I stopped access altogether so DD would suffer.

Would I be unreasonable to ask him to take home alcohol/drug tests in front of me before he collects her in the future? He is usually a good dad and it’s easy to see how much DD thinks of him so I really want him to keep seeing her but I need to ensure she is not being out at risk.

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Sn0tnose · 29/02/2020 16:06

I would like to tell him he can’t see DD unsupervised but I know he wouldn’t see her at all So... coupled with his willingness to drive her when he’s not sober, he’s actually not that good a dad at all then?

Bowzer · 29/02/2020 16:24

I informed the police as soon as I was made aware, I also emailed screenshots of him admitting to it in messages so they have proof. It's not something he will be getting away with.

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OhCaptain · 29/02/2020 16:26

You can’t let your daughter go with him again.

She won’t see either of her parents if she’s dead, will she?

TheSevenDials · 29/02/2020 16:31

You have to protect your dd, simple as that.

BigChocFrenzy · 29/02/2020 16:40

Bloody hell, that report of the drunk / drugged driver killing one child and seriously injuring 2 other little children

Stupid, selfish bastard

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