Ds father has me in a complete spin as usual. He came over to see DS on Tuesday night we made pancakes, had a lovely evening, finished with some snogging then he went, cane over later in the week was a bit hostile to me which he says makes it easier to keep him distance from me. Things relax, we have a kiss before he leaves. Nothing more, because I'm adamant that nothing else goes on until he actually clears his head. We had a chat a few weeks ago in which I told him to make up his mind about what he wanted. If he wanted to be a family with DS and I then step up but he couldn't keep doing this half in half out thing. Yesterday there was a mix up about arrangements for DS who was to go to his Nanny's, this caused some inconvenience to DS father which meant he had to go and swap cars with his mum, he reacted by being difficult, moody and shitty with me. We all went to the bar after work for a drink and he pretty much ignored me, he then went out last night with my ex, and I asked him to come over tonight for a take away but apparently he is going out with my ex again to watch a football match and then heading out. I told him I guess I have my answer then since there is only 1 relationship that you are investing any time and energy in and it isn't with me. I'm just so hurt and upset that he can't make us his priority. Or if he would just say look I don't want this but I guess he is saying it all the time with him behaviour..,