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Was my friend rude?

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friendsdayout · 29/02/2020 11:32

Been close friends for nearly two years. We only have a small circle of friends each but we don’t know each other’s friends or hang out together. When we do things it is just said friend and I.

Anyway, she phoned me up last night for a catch up and asked me what I was up to this weekend, she normally works on a Saturday but had booked it off. She asked me if I wanted to do something and I said sure. I asked her if there was anything specific she wanted to do and she said she’d have a think about it and let me know in the morning. I rang her this morning to suggest a few ideas e.g lunch, cinema etc, and she said no to all of them so I asked her to come up with an idea (as I was getting a bit annoyed that I was suggesting activities and she was just saying no to everything). In the end, I said I’d just come over for a cuppa around 12ish. She said that was fine but that she’d need to leave the house around 1pm because she was going out with another friend.

I messaged her to explain that I had decided to stay at home instead, because I didn’t really see the point in driving over 30 minutes to her house to see her when she’d be leaving in an hour anyway. She hasn’t replied to my message so far. I’m not entirely sure as to why she asked me to hang out today as she clearly wasn’t up for it and would rather hang out with her other friend (which is absolutely fine by the way). It’s just that I could have made other plans but instead I’ve wasted my morning pissing around with her.

AIBU to feel slightly annoyed?
Was she rude, or was I?
I must admit I am fairly tired from working all week so I could just be a cranky cow!

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GinDrinker00 · 29/02/2020 11:34

She’s being rude. She should of said yesterday she had other plans. YANBU.

user1498572889 · 29/02/2020 11:36

She is rude. Don’t put yourself out in the future she was just waiting to see who came up with the best offer.

Icecreambaby · 29/02/2020 11:36

Yes she is inconsiderate. I would say no for such a short meetup too.

pinkyredrose · 29/02/2020 11:36

She was rude.

TweetUsOnFacebook · 29/02/2020 11:38

It sounds like she got a better offer after asking you to do something, which is probably why she started being cagey about your ideas for cinema, lunch etc as she needed to meet the other friend at 1.

Franticbutterfly · 29/02/2020 11:38

She’s rude. Don’t hang out with people who act like they are doing you a favour by being there.

HeartyGreenSalad · 29/02/2020 11:41

She was rude

friendsdayout · 29/02/2020 11:43

Thank you for reassuring me. I was prepared to be told that I was being a cow but I guess not. I was quite happy to spend the day in the house anyway and just chill, just felt a bit annoyed that she'd messed me around all morning. I'll know better in the future.

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