Coronavirus and Family Visits

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Hi!

I have a question!

Background: I'm expecting my first child in May, and my parents have booked a visit in May to see the new baby. My brother has told me my martyr mother has been complaining on the regular about coming (behind my back, to my face she really wants to come). We don't have a great relationship and to be honest having her here with a newborn would be hell.

She's now trying to find a way get out of visiting. She's worried about COVID19. Its an excuse, I know her too well. But my question is, should I just say not to come?

Consequences would be I would have to "convince her" not to, so she feels absolved of any responsibility and so she can blame me, but I may be willing to take the hit in the case.

Suggestions on strategy? Is it unreasonable to say "no don't come, too risky for the baby" in order to give her and me what we both really want?

Ugh, I hate her game playing.

Adding a little more detail. They're flying from Australia to UK.

if I were you, I’d definitely “convince” her. Anything for mental well being in those first days with a newborn !

Never mind, sigh, I think I offered cancelling their hotels etc too quickly. They're convincing me they're coming now. God damn it, my hopes were high.

Where are they transferring? If Singapore or HK , I would definitely say no!

Qatar I think.