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"Can I ask what it's for?"

261 replies

Syrinx89 · 27/02/2020 21:24

Is it normal for the receptionist to ask this question when booking a GP appointment over the phone? This happened to me for the first time on Monday when calling my local surgery for an appointment and I wondered what I would have said if it was something I wanted to keep confidential (thankfully, it wasn't!). Has anyone else had any experience with this? Is it allowed/the norm?

YABU - YES it is common practice
YANBU - No, this doesn't sit well

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shuuush · 28/02/2020 20:12

Sorry just realises my thread has posted on here I've reported x

Dinoctoblock · 28/02/2020 20:23

My mum works in a gp surgery, occasionally on front desk answering the phones, so with any “odd” GP receptionist behaviour I always ask her. So when my practice started doing this she said it’s just to make things easier/quicker/smoother but I am quite within my rights to say no, I’d rather not say. So sometimes I have said this, and sometimes I explain what I need the appointment for.

Like most things in life, it easy to get caught up in overanalysing. I doubt the receptionist is going to fall off her chair if you tell her something wild/say no.

skyblu · 28/02/2020 20:39

It’s common practice at my surgery.
I don’t mind when it’s over the phone but I do mind when it’s in person at the counter in front of the whole waiting room!
I refused to say once, just said “it’s personal, I’d rather not say” and the receptionist got really stroppy with me! Said they have to put something as the Dr asks them to!
So I said, fine just put sore throat!

I didn’t have a sore throat, nor did the Dr ask!

Merryweather80 · 28/02/2020 20:42

They ask at my practice too and have two chronic health conditions. I told the receptionist and said it won't be something the jurse can deal with only to get an appointment with the nurse who said "I can't deal with this you need the gp" I said I know I asked for GP and for some reason got an appointment with you not her. She was livid, a complete waste of her time and a waste of an appointment. Non medically trained staff shouldn't be triaging which is essentially what's happening, plus very little can be diagnosed over the phone accurately by anyone unless it is a redcurrant problem, and even then it's dubious.
Most of us are aware who is the best person to seek help from and are willing to say I need to see x because I suspect I have y and the pharmacy can't help. We're all aware of using services correctly. Yes there's those who don't and I agree they may need sheparding to the correct person, but when you've specifically said it's because I have x conditions and need the doctor should you be fobbed off? Even talking to the GP on the phone won't help.

We need more practices and medical staff across the board. Hospitals included, and quickly.

VerbenaGirl · 28/02/2020 20:49

Very possibly a measure they have put in place to try and limit the spread of Coronavirus?

Isbutteracarb · 28/02/2020 20:52

My current practice does this and precious one did too. I used to find it awkward but just phoned up the other day planning on making a phone appointment with the GP and when I explained what for the receptionist recommended I make a normal appointment to see the GP in person based on what I'd told her so I guess they have their reasons for asking.

Isbutteracarb · 28/02/2020 20:53

*previous not precious 🤦🏼‍♀️

sunshinesky · 28/02/2020 20:58

Both - they have done this at my doctors for as long as I can remember and I hate it. When you’re sitting in the waiting area anyone who books an appointment at the desk is asked this and you can hear everything. No privacy or respect at all.

Ronnie27 · 28/02/2020 21:04

Completely normal, GP time is valuable and the receptionists are the gatekeepers. I doubt they are remotely interested in your personal health problems for anything other than signposting you / prioritising your appointment. Everyone has a body, sometimes they go wrong, she’s heard it all before, no need to be embarrassed.

womaninatightspot · 28/02/2020 21:21

I'd echo a PP poster and say this is common in overstretched practices. My old doctors used to do this and the call between 8-9 for an appointment. Always engaged and then no appointments for three days so you had to call back the next day. Repeat until you got better, died or ended up in hospital on IV antibiotics which happened to me twice!

Current doctors the receptionist don't ask and it's easy to get an appointment often same day/ next day. It's busy but they seem to have the balance right.

jackie2669 · 28/02/2020 21:39

It is common practice but I do get a bit uncomfortable with our new receptionist they all seem to be 16 and 17 .

MrsTT3017 · 28/02/2020 21:42

It can be disappointing and frustrating to read posts like this. Receptionists work incredibly hard and are trained to help signpost patients to the appropriate HCP. It's not because of cuts or shortage of services so much. Practices endeavour that a patient should be appropriately dealt with on first contact. Of course it's patient choice - no-one wants to be discussing certain things in public or with a stranger! However staff hear all sorts and it really doesn't make a difference! At my practice we have 10 doctors, 2 nurses, 2 healthcare assistants/phlebotomists, a clinical pharmacist, a nurse practitioner and a physician associate so yes receptionists are trained to look out for things and ask the rights questions. I know it's not true for all receptionists and some are just on a power trip but they ask these questions to try and help. Imagine if you booked to see a doctor only to be told you need to a nurse - it's a waste of your time and an appointment when you could have been advised who you need to see and why. I once dealt with a lady who thought she had left her tampon in (she had poor thing). But if I hadn't asked and she hadn't got an appointment or had waited longer for an appointment she would have become very unwell. She was very embarrassed but I reassured and thanked her for fully explaining and I of course explained why I needed to ask her. We really are trying to help

sendhelpppppp · 28/02/2020 21:43

Its normal but i dont like the idea of a receptionist deciding which HCP i need to see and how quickly. Theyre not medically trained to do that. Plus i would ask for a nurse for minor stuff anyway.

Graphista · 28/02/2020 22:18

Perfectly normal and has been at many gp surgeries for many years now.

I remember it starting early 90’s.

Unfortunately STILL too many people asking for/wanting to see a DR for things that a

Pharmacist - not only great usually better than drs on meds knowledge inc side effects and interactions with other meds - mine literally saved my life when they caught that I’d been prescribed a med I’m allergic to which the name had changed and dr hadn’t realised. They’re also well versed on otc and home remedies and their interactions with meds too.

Optometrist - experts on all aspected of eye health, a friend of a friends child the optometrist also spotted a cancer symptom

Phlebotomist
Podiatrist
Physio
Nurse - ours are excellent on many aspects of healthcare, nutrition, self care, mh, gynae... all sorts

Is perfectly capable of dealing with.

But it’s not entirely patients’ fault.

Personally I think we need a good, clear public health campaign advising people of who to see for which complaints.

That would free up a lot of gp appointments.

Occasionally had issues with new receptionists (either we were new patients to that surgery or they were new to the job) who were somewhat obstructive/awkward when I’ve had to make gp appointments for dd and I for what are on the surface issues normally dealt with by other hcps, but I’ve learned now to preface with something like

“We have to see gp about this due to history of asthma/other condition...”

“When we’ve dealt with this in the past otc treatments didn’t work and gp advised in future to make gp appointment without delay as we’re prone to x issue”

Dd has a disability which makes her not only more prone to certain infections but also they take hold very badly and very fast on her so have to be dealt with strongly and quickly.

I have difficult to control asthma plus a history of serious lung issues and so if I get a chest infection I’m prescribed antibiotics immediately prophylactically. I also have allergies to certain antibiotics and so tend to need ones that can only be prescribed by a dr. Pita for me too but can’t be helped.

The receptionists that know us don’t hesitate to make an appointment.

Otherwise I’m pretty good on treating most minor ailments with home or otc remedies anyway and even with dds condition we’ve learned how best to deal with the regular issues.

My gp surgery you can self refer (hope I get this right, I’m always posting on mn about it but don’t always get the services right then next time I call I realise!) to:

Physio
Podiatry
Primary mh care
Midwifery service
Audiology
Treatment room (for wound care mainly, new dressings, stitches removed etc)
Nurse practitioner (who can do loads)

It frees up appointments for the gps and they also do telephone appointments which As I’m housebound I find very useful for minor issues. Gp & nurse will do house calls for anything serious.

Also an automated repeat prescription line.

I agree receptionists are NOT medically trained and should not be advising patients on otc or home treatments and I’ve had that issue myself and I have complained and the receptionist was handled in both instances. Only twice over many many years as a patient though.

I also think when it’s in person in the reception area they should provide pen & paper or perhaps a small whiteboard for patients to write the issue on so they’re not having to announce to the entire bloody waiting room that they’ve got thrush again!

Mine you book in electronically too and it pisses me off that my dob and address are shown in HUGE writing which I am sure must be a Gdpr issue! I’m on one med which is controlled (and very popular with heroin addicts) I felt very vulnerable at times when the in surgery pharmacy or even the dr or receptionist has mentioned this med coupled with others in the waiting room probably having seen my address! (I have raised this but they still slip up sometimes)

“We live in a small town where everyone knows everyone else” ohh I know the feeling! I’m an “incomer” and I’ve found it really quite disconcerting when via Facebook I’ve discovered certain connections I was completely unaware of eg at one point my next door neighbour (who was an arse to me) turned out to be the brother of the person at the council I’d been complaining about him to! 😡

Others I’ve just been so glad I’ve held my tongue on certain issues when someone who’s annoyed me turns out to be x’s sister in law or something.

“I wouldn't want a GP taking my blood or bandaging me anyway, they do these kinds of tasks so rarely these days that they're often crap at it.” So true! I think a lot of people don’t realise they don’t get a lot of training or experience on certain skills because it’s actually not really part of their job! I’m a nightmare to get blood out of and always ask for the midwife to do it and my surgery are fine doing that as even the nurse says I’m murder! (Thin, buried, easily collapsing veins unfortunately) I did have one dr ages ago TRY and did that awful thing of “digging around” to try and “revive” the vein! Bloody hurts!!

Forever grateful to the receptionist when we rushed dd in with her first bout of anaphylaxis (living in sticks at the time gp quicker than ambulance as we lived less than 5 mins from surgery) who didn’t even really wait to hear us, took one look at dd and belted off to get dr and told them it was anaphylaxis and dr appeared with Epi ready to go grabbed dd and stuck it in! Very very scary experience.

“Most of us are aware who is the best person to seek help from” actually no not the case.

“We're all aware of using services correctly” not true.

Seen MANY threads on here posted by people with minor ailments that require nothing more than home remedy/otc treatment bemoaning not being able to get gp appointments AND by people with clearly serious issues (symptoms of heart failure, limbs hanging off!) debating whether to go to a&e!

Most people don’t really seem to understand what various hcps do and what services they’re able to provide, no.

Personally I think there are 2 easily resolvable reasons why there aren’t enough gp appointments currently and the solution IS NOT more gps!

1 gps NOT referring to specialists when appropriate - this is a major bug bear of mine and comes down to money. Basically gp surgeries are to all intents and purposes self employed/self contained businesses that sub contract to the nhs. Referrals to specialists impact their profits plus there are other disincentives to do so. Result being many patients see the gp repeatedly for the SAME undx condition, sometimes over years/decades rather than being referred to a specialist and getting the correct dx and treatment.

Our current model of treatment is basically “fire fighting” rather than long term prevention.

It’s a particular issue for female patients especially with not only gynae issues but apparently (from my own personal interest in this and many threads on here) also gall bladder disease and thyroid conditions.

If gps referred to specialists as they should, they wouldn’t have many multiples of appointments taken up by patients reporting/getting treatment to cover the same symptoms repeatedly.

2 people due to lack of knowledge wrongly seeing the gp for issues better and more appropriately dealt with by other hcps and nhs services.

Another less easy to deal with reason is people who HAVE been told that they should be seeing another hcp or service for x issue and for whatever reason either don’t understand or don’t accept that information. Less easy to deal with as reasons may include health anxiety, learning disabilities, dementia etc but barring cognitive impairment I do think patients who use gps inappropriately should be pulled up in some way.

InforaPenny7 · 28/02/2020 22:22

This happens at mine and the last time I said I’d rather wait and discuss it with the dr if that was ok (I would say if it was earache or whatever obviously) and she said from next year it would be obligatory to tell the reception! I asked where that would leave someone who was struggling to find confidence to seek help with something and she insisted they would have to tell her!
In the past it’s been possible to say you’d rather not discuss, although they have asked for years, but 🤷🏻‍♀️
Not sure that makes great strides to combat mental health and encourage sufferers to seek help so I hope it’s not true!

Happygirl79 · 28/02/2020 22:24

If you are offended then just say thanks for asking but its confidential please just make an appointment for me

MrsTT3017 · 28/02/2020 22:49

Just curious - what about when you go to a walk in centre or A&E? Has anyone refused to give the reason, if so what was the receptionists response?

MrsApplepants · 28/02/2020 22:50

So glad this doesn’t happen at my GP. If I need to see a doc, we just have to turn up at the surgery before 10am and are guaranteed to see one that morning. If there are a few people ahead of you, the receptionist gives you the option to come back later with a rough time. It works so well. No one asks why we need to see the doctor. I am never moving from this GP surgery ever!!

Likethebattle · 28/02/2020 22:52

@mrsTT3017 last time I was in A&E it wasn’t a receptionist but a pre-triage nurse who took details and then you went to triage. I had split my head open so the blood running down my face and all over my top probably helped them to guess.

Catinabeanbag · 28/02/2020 22:57

Guess they're probably also asking in case of the coronavirus at the moment, as well. I had an 'info text' today (I think from my GP surgery) saying that if I had cough / temp / shortness of breath etc, to phone 111 and NOT go to the surgery.

MrsTT3017 · 28/02/2020 23:12

Thanks, that's interesting. I assumed all A&E's had reception ask for a reason before booking a patient in. I wonder why they don't all work the same way

TwistinMyMelon · 28/02/2020 23:15

Your receptionist opens your records to book your apt, and they will proceed your blood results and letters. They are bound by confidentiality the same as your GP.

MotherOfLittlePeople · 28/02/2020 23:16

They always ask at our surgery unless you book online. I don't think they should unless you say it's urgent

MrsTT3017 · 28/02/2020 23:20

@Likethebattle Thanks, that's interesting. I assumed all A&E's had reception ask for a reason before booking a patient in. I wonder why they don't all work the same way

Merryweather80 · 28/02/2020 23:28

I see someone turned into an overnight GP up thread - based on their personal experiences!