DS was diagnosed with a serious illness last year. Our world has turned upside down and we have spent huge amounts of time in hospital, or attending appointments. I've had to give up work and everything has changed. He still may survive.
It's been a really difficult 12 months. Nearly all my friends have been amazing, so kind and supportive.
However one of my closest friends hasn't. Initially she was, but after the first month it's like she lost interest. Where we used to message several times a day, I now barely hear from her. When I do hear from her it's usually something quite insensitive or hurtful.
For example, when DS1 was in intensive care, I messaged her to tell her but all I got in return was 'that sounds awful, and two paragraphs about her chest infection'
I'm sure she doesn't mean to be, but I think she's very self-centred. I realise that much of our friendship was built on listening and supporting her through her dramas. She seems to operate on the same scale of drama as before whereas mine is on a different level. I'm happy to support friends through things their dealing with, and actually quite like the distraction, but she seems to equate her problems with mine. In a 'oh yes I'm really stressed too as I've got a big project on at work'
She lives less than half a mile a way but I haven't seen her. She's invited me to stuff but they're things that I really don't feel up to but she's made no effort to do anything else. It's like her life is carrying on as normal and she seems almost pissed off that I've dropped off the radar.
What makes it awkward is we are part of a larger circle of friends who are all being lovely, even though they were probably less close friends before.
It's become really strained because it's obvious that we're no longer close and it makes group situations awkward.
I don't know what to do, if anything. I don't have the energy or capacity to talk to her about it, but I'm angry with her for it and feel let down.