To have occassionally thought of my dh's demise (light hearted, probably!)

[KellyHall]

I sometimes make jokey comments about him being ok to keep smoking or such "because he's insured, so it's ok".

Or that "I'm really annoyed by him but I can't leave because I'd get no life insurance payout so he'll have to just die instead".

My husband is the absolute love of my life. I wish him no pain or suffering. But every once in a while I have fleeting thoughts of what my life might be like if he died...

Lol do those thoughts make you happy or sad? I mean if you're saddened by them them I'd say it's normal?

I have those thoughts often. Life would be so very different and I'm sure quite shit!

Definitely not happy, but sometimes not sad either!

Have you seen the film "This is 40"? The husbands discuss who their next wives will be if their current wives die. It's not like they actually want them to die, but they have a rough plan for their lives if their wives did die!

Be careful what you wish for Op. I speak from experience

Way to keep it light hearted Maiden!

Completely normal OP.

Feeling like this right now as im wide awake listening to thunderous snoring like a jet plane engine 😡😡

Woken him once but he just denies he's snoring GAHHHHH

I hope you both survived the night mug! 🤣

They did a study about loss of sleep due to your partner's snoring, it was incredibly high.

I used to scoff at my grandparents' separate rooms but now I totally get it. Unfortunately, we don't have a spare room 🤦‍♀️

Sorry Op, didn't mean to be a negative nelly.
Mine weren't lighthearted thoughts....... 🤷🏻‍♀️

😂 I do this OP, thought it was just an evil streak I had, glad to see I’m not alone 😂
Sometimes I think about who I would date if DH carked it 🤷‍♀️😀 and how much tidier it would be and I would get all the bed etc

I have seen the 40 film, v funny 😂

DH is mostly lovely !

I have a really really good policy on DH.....
Really good.

stares at mess he left in kitchen

I have a plan. I know exactly what I'd do, the things I'd put into place for our girls, the way I'd approach the funeral etc. My heart breaks into a million pieces when I think about it, but my brain just doesn't stop going there.

I am the same as whathername - I have it all planned out. I think I just need to know I would be ok (although I think I would be sad forever).