To loose my shit over this...?

[malificent7]

On placement during a practical two of the students laughed as i made a silly mistake ...it was daft and i normally wouldnt sweat it but they kept laughing and talking as though i wasn't there saying things such as " she did this, this and this....." Basically having a joke at my expense. I know i wasnt making it up as another student touched my arm in a reassuring way and told me " its ok."
Ive noticed another occasion during lunch when they are talking about me as though im not there.
If it happens again should i say something or rise above it. Of course i don't want to show that it's got to me but i feel they could do with a good dressing down..
In context they are a good 20 years younger than me but i am fuming....

Age has nothing to do with it. Maybe they are being immature a-holes but you aren't above them.

Eyeroll and ignore. I'd say something to them directly before I went to the student mentor.

As long as you do well in the course it literally doesn’t matter about them. Try to ignore them, you don’t need friends like that.

Speak to your mentor or placement lead. They might do well in practice but they have awful attitudes.

Absolutely call them out but in a firm, honest and professional way. “Your comments are incredibly distracting.” Then if they carry on “I will be complaining to * if this continues”.

They sound incredibly immature and they need to learn that their behaviour is not acceptable.

I'd probably reply next time, saying something like 'That kind of behaviour is very unprofessional. I hope you won't speak about patients like that in future.'

But the other students their age are lovely ....im putting it down to being a holes.
I think what bothers me more is that they are doing well on placement and im struggling a bit.

I would say something in a non confrontational way but making it clear it's not ok.

"excuse me, have I done something to upset you as I have noticed that I seem to be the butt of your jokes which is upsetting me and making me uncomfortable".

The next time it happens OP, I would just look whichever one is saying it dead in the eye and say "I am here you know"

This would really get to me too, OP.
I agree with what @NotStayingIn said.

And just roll your eyes whenever they do it.
(And if you're sure there are no witnesses, and no audio with any cctv, just tell them to STFU. OK, just joking not really joking .)

Do remain content in the knowledge that they will each do something just as 'daft' one day, (yes, they definitely will) so just hope that you'll be there to witness it.

These types always get thiers in the end.

Ask me how I know.

(Signed,
...a former immature little bitch.)

I'm sorry they're being immature twats, OP.

Ultimately, it doesn't matter how well they're doing on their placements, the only person you need to be concerned about is yourself. I'd just get on with the placement and concentrate on doing the best you can. You're unlikely to end up working with these twats in the long term so they're irrelevant to you.

If it helps to mutter" twats" under your breath occasionally, do it. Good luck, I really admire you training for a second career, I'm sure you'll be a fabulous radiographer when you're qualified

Happened to me once. I stopped and said directly to the people involved ‘I am so glad that you have seen the intended humour in my presentation. Not everyone noticed. Maybe you could share it with the group so that we could all enjoy it.’ Not another peep.

I was so proud of myself because I am not usually so quick thinking or brave. It shut them up though and I got kudos for the response, and a few giggles at their expense.

I wish I could be that brave all the time. Forget it OP. Most probably only you noticed and it is already yesterdays news 😁

I second @AmICrazyorWhat2 's advise...
...but ammend it to mutter, 'stupid twats'

under your breath.

I would tell them in a matter of fact way that their comments are unkind, you’re all here to learn, will make mistakes but poking fun is at people for that is really unprofessional and unwelcome. Then go to your tutor to give them the heads up on what’s going on so they can have a word or nip it in the bud if they do it again.

If you are new to the course and haven’t known each other long, in my experience immature and insecure people use this sort of bitchiness as a shortcut to bonding - creating a them versus us scenario to create a sort of tribe. It will backfire on them eventually but you don’t have to put up with it.

The problem here is we will all give advice about how we would deal with this, in ways that we can pull off. OP, you need empowering to deal with it in a way that fits your personality.

If you have time I recommend the book How to bully proof your kid (it’s something like that) which I think is a great book for this kind of power dynamic.

Don’t lose your shit over it, once you do that there’s no going back.

I would just remind them that I’m still in the room. And say “yeah I did do that. So what?” They’re trying to get a rise from you

I’m sorry but I think you need to speak to your tutor. If they feel they can do this to their peers then what do they think is acceptable with patient’s? I really think it shows a side to then that is not suitable to the job. They need pulling up in it or to get off the course.

And once they get the rise, don’t be surprised if it’s spun to malificent did such and such

Just say a cheery “morning! I just wanted to check so I know I’m giving the right feedback when you’re doing your practical - is the preference the pointing and laughing during, or the whispering and giggling after? I haven’t really got time for both and I just wanted to make sure we’re all on the same page.”

Both calling it out and acting like you think it’s pointless and it doesn’t bother you takes away its power.

I'd ignore it. No confrontation, no passive aggression. Let it go.

Defiantly speak to your mentor.
I saw this and thought it might help

What you could do is say to them "just make sure you are perfect going forward, or I'll do to you what you are doing to me, so just grow up and let's be professional."

When they're giggling could you just stop, look at them sternly, say nothing for a bit and then say, 'done?' The implication being you won't carry on until they stop.

Please dont "lose your shit" or call them twats .
Be mature and professional .
" Can you stop laughing at me, thank you"
Steely glare

Im not going tobloose my shit as in tantrum...i think ive figured out what im going to say...something along the lines of...
Thats three times now ive noticed you talking about me amonst yourselves...its very unprofessional...this is the workplace...or something like that.

Then they'll just take the piss out of you for being condescending OP.
Rise above it.