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AIBU to feel more ambitious than ever as I approach my fifties?

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froggyfire · 26/02/2020 10:31

Does anyone else feel like this? I had a career change in my thirties then spent ten years having babies (and also not having babies - several horrible losses really knocked me sideways a few years ago and definitely took my attention away from career/work). So I am about ten years into a job that for the most part I love and it has been ticking over during this time but at a fairly slow pace, partly because I have taken the main carer role while my DH has progressed his career and accelerated.

As I approach my fifties and the kids are a bit older, I feel more ambitious than ever - I have a real sense of time running out while also wanting to achieve so much more.

Does/did anyone else feel like this? I don't know why but it feels odd, a little out of step, as though many people my age have achieved their ambitions and are now chilling out a bit or something. I don't know whether I feel like this because 'older' women are often fairly invisible or even absent in many workplaces. I don't know, I also feel a bit embarrassed that I have not been more successful already.

I would be really interested to hear from other people in a similar (or indeed different!) place.

OP posts:
Bbarn0owl30 · 27/02/2020 10:41

I have a decent job, so I'm not looking to change it

I'm concentrating my energy on planning interesting things to do during my time outside work with family & friends
We have things planned around our hobbies
We have some holidays & events already booked
Days out locally & further away
Attempting to eat healthier & exercise too

Whilst still living within our budget

My friend advised me that it's good to have balance, so for me it's work v lifestyle balance

Norma27 · 27/02/2020 10:49

I am mid 40s and about to start with one of the second tier accountancy firms training as a tax associate . I was very ambitious but then life threw in some curveballs and that changed.
I can't wait to get started again and am keen to progress as far as I can.
Good luck with everything.

Bbarn0owl30 · 27/02/2020 11:09

I work where there are people are from 18 to late 60s

Nobody is invisible !

I have never been invisible and don't intend to ever be !

Bbarn0owl30 · 27/02/2020 11:40

I know some people who didn't make it this far
So I'm grateful to be here & trying to make the most of every thing

LifeExperimentation · 27/02/2020 13:19

I hope that I'm just as driven when I'm approaching my 50s, as I feel I have lots more to achieve (and £ to earn).

Maybe some of it depends on compromises that you feel you might have had to make while children were young.

Mine's in primary and I wonder if I'll have more energy to pour into work when we're at the high school stage. Or if I'll be more exhausted by then as the cracking of the whip has been slightly relentless.

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