To wonder if people really have their baby girls in massive oversized head bows 24/7?

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Or is it just for Instagram pictures? Like massive headbands with an enormous bow?

I have a 10 week old dd and if I put her to bed that way it would never stay on.

At the moment it's really in fashion. This is dd4 for me and I don't remember this trend with any of the others.

I find them ridiculous. Are people really so insecure about gender that they need to mark out their baby from day one so no one thinks she's a boy?

The pressure of a headband often gives me a headache unless very carefully positioned. I wouldn’t do that to a baby who couldn’t tell me or adjust themselves.

Not seen any that big before, had no idea that was even a "thing" - certainly not in any of the baby groups my way anyway!
Headbands on babies generally look ridiculous though, must be uncomfortable and a safety risk. Why bother?!

If they are so afraid someone might think their child is not a girl they have serious problems.

I put bows on my babies head. I see a headband/bow, I think it's cute so I buy it, I put it on my daughter, it makes me laugh because it's so silly, like a bow on a potato, then it's usually off again after 5 minutes.

Agreed @Jossina it's embarrassing that someone would compromise the comfort and safety of their baby just to signal to the world the sex of the child.

There are people however that I have seen on Instagram that treat their child as if they are an accessory themselves or something to demonstrate a lifestyle so they can get likes

Horrendous ghastly people

The word "ridiculous" was created for a reason...

Babies with headbands and earrings..just wrong on every level!

I'd sooner my DD was mistaken for a boy than an Easter Egg. To avoid embarrassment when strangers said 'what a lovely baby, what's his name?' I'd just reply 'Colin'.

I can only presume they don’t know the dangers. I’ve seen people making them to sell on FB so I imagine it would be very hard to legislate and enforce a warning attached at the point of sale.

I did put one on dd when she was about 2.5, well more of a lacy Pom Pom thing, because she was basically bald for the first 3.5 years and we were at a wedding but aside from that I didn’t bother.

I’m with the comedian Hannah Gadsby on this: ‘would you put a hairband on a potato?’

They were in fashion when my DD was born almost nine years ago so it’s nothing new and it’s always looked tacky and stupid.

I know a woman who put her DD in them because she was a bald baby and the woman wanted everyone to be sure she was a baby girl . Never mind the fact the woman made her wear pink everything and have her ears pierced as well.

Half the problems we're having with gender dysphoria these days could easily be stemming from this sort of rigid gender divide; the sort of thinking that makes parents label babies as unmistakably female or male, and makes misgendering a little poppet in a pram a capital offence.

I love gender-neutral baby clothing and bought mustard, grey, rust and teal baby cord to make little rompers before I knew nearly grandchild's sex. Though Dawn Butler would say the baby will be born without sex, of course he won't! If he'd been predicted to be a girl I wouldn't suddenly have rushed out to buy pink fabrics or metres of lace, though I admit I looked fondly at some gorgeous florals. He will be wearing tights for practicality, and homemade onesies in patterns of jungle animals, leaves, moon and stars, stripes etc but no vehicles and no flowers. Today's job is a stripy knotted nightgown and matching knotted hat, red and white. No gender clues there!

I'm wondering why I have a block about florals for a boy. Off to look for something bold and fun and gender neutral!

I think they look ridiculous, but who am I to say as many years ago when my oldest DD was a baby, I bought her a dress with a mop cap with it ( well before Insta). Looking back I wonder what the hell I was thinking

@Nearlygranny

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I agree, Op. headbands on babies is up there with horrible stiff jeans.

Do they also have a function? Like keeping ears warm?

Half the problems we're having with gender dysphoria these days could easily be stemming from this sort of rigid gender divide; the sort of thinking that makes parents label babies as unmistakably female or male, and makes misgendering a little poppet in a pram a capital offence

Oh I so agree! Who cares if a stranger thinks your baby girl is a boy or vice versa. I have thought for a long time that far from being progressive and woke, our society is actually regressing in terms of gender. Pink for boys. Blue for girls. And if you’re somewhere in between you must raise your hand and identify yourself.

A lot of babies round here have them put on, I think they look uncomfortable and the only reason is to flag baby is a girl, why?

Boy babies don't have special headgear, so on top of the points mentioned it's boy as default. Like how female animals in cartoons have massive eyelashes to show they're female. This stuff is insidious.

I’ve seen photos of them but never seen one in flesh.

I assumed it was because a girl baby looks like a boy baby and that’s intolerable to some people?

I was given a headband as a gift from someone, it went on for a very quick picture and then came off again. If they are tight enough to stay on then they are tight enough to put pressure on the head which can be quite uncomfortable even for an adult, and they are also extremely dangerous if they get pulled down/slip around the neck or even over the nose.

@NearlyGranny yes agree 100%.

Most people seem to think DD is a boy because she wears DS’s hand-me-downs. I find this odd because the clothes she’s wearing (other than lots of pink we got gifted) I bought with the intention that they be unisex.

Although obviously me shopping for unisex clothes is part of the problem because why shouldn’t the pink flowery onesie be for a boy or the blue top with pictures of trucks on it be for a girl?

My school age DS hasn’t yet heard the “pink is for girls” thing and he’ll usually pick a pink cup or plate when give them choice. I’m aware this will abruptly stop one day when he’s told.

My Mum bought me a hat to match every outfit when I was a baby/toddler. She never put me in a dress though, it was always rompers or dungarees with a matching hat. There’s a few photos of me wearing things like tartan rompers and hats, I looked absolutely ridiculous but this was obviously way before social media so my Mum didn’t really have anyone to impress .

I was the biggest ‘tomboy’ around as a child which I don’t think my Mother was particularly fond of. I was most comfortable in football shirts and jeans until I hit puberty.

You can get really soft stretchy ones that aren't uncomfortable for the baby at all. In fact I think most of them are like this....if the baby is not wearing them to sleep/in car seat etc then there is no risk so I think most people on this thread are just being snobs because it's mostly 'lower class' people that put them on their babies.

Ear piercing of babies I do not agree with though - how this is comparable to a bow I do not know, apart from the fact again, it's mostly a certain 'type' of mother that does it.

You are ALL BU
Don't you know the Minnie Mouse look is like totally on fleck atm.
Or summat.