Food Shaming

[WTAFFF]

I’m pretty angry right now. My DP has critiqued everything I have eaten today.

From ‘how much of that are you going to have eat?’ to ‘you’re not having a second can of Diet Coke are you?!’

This irrationally annoys me. I’ve lost ten Kgs recently and am heading in a really good direction.

But his input is not helpful and I feel like he is attempting to shame me. When I asked why he felt it necessary to try to prevent me from having a second can of Diet Coke (these are small cans and we have 24 for £5 from the local discount store) he said he was attempting to help me budget. So it’s not even about the health impacts of fizzy drinks.

Also, after he questioned me about how much of a particular food I was planning on eating, he then took it off me and ate double the amount I had.

AIBU to be annoyed by this? Does anyone else have this?

Poor you OP, that is such horrible behaviour. Life is hard enough, nobody needs to be treated like this in their own home by their nearest and dearest.

I'd have had a 3rd can of coke and glared at him while I downed it in one!

Depends on your instructions to him ha! I say to dp, don't let me eat crap! Next time I say I want to eat chocolate (for example) say no.

When this then happens I get pissed off in a 'don't treat me like a child' way.

If you don't have these random agreements in pparlce YANBU

That made me spit out my tea!

No, it really didn’t 🙄

I cannot stand food policing.
I've lost a fair bit of weight lately (about 3.5 stone); this weekend I had one family member saying "you don't need to lose any more weight, you need to eat more" and another family member saying on seeing me eating something "oh you don't want to be putting all that weight back on, don't eat too much now". Both of them can feck off. It's my body and my choice and if I want input I will ask.

If someone took food from me I would take it fucking back.

What he took your food off you and ate it?

I had finished with it. I would have eaten more but he put me off it. I had just wrapped it back up and he then took it and ate it.

Nope, YANBU! I'd have a bath in the Diet Coke just to piss him off.

Tell him to fuck off.

If you want advice on budget or diet you can ask for it.

Try showing him how shitting annoying he is under the guise of being helpful. So next time he goes to put his shoes on, rush over and start explaining/doing it for him. Talk about this in public with mutual friends. Say how helpful you are with assisting him in toothbrushing, driving, joined up writing, etc, and when he wonders what the hell you are doing just say, wide-eyed, that you're being helpful, just like he is to you.
He'd drive me mad, he's lucky he hadn't got his nose flicked.

What a rotter! Never let members of the food police anywhere near your diet!

Ignore the man, and eat what you like.. But just to say, I have just unblocked my toilet with some coca cola ha ha.

Never let members of the food police anywhere near your diet!

That’s XXX advice.

I’m trying to think of a more mature piece of advice than ‘kick him in the cock’. But you have to admit, what it lacks in subtlety it makes up for in impact.

YADNBU. What you need to do is drop 200 pounds immediately by dumping his sorry ass, and drink a second can of coke like the beautiful woman you are!

I jest, obviously. Next time he brings it up, just ask him sweetly if hes aware that behaving like a dick doesnt make his any bigger. Hell likely huff, but so long as you pull him up on it all the time, hopefully the message will get through.

Well done on the weight loss so far. You're fab!

@IWishItWasSummer

You're a real misery guts aren't you!

^^ What they said. What was he like before your brilliant weight loss?

Damn, posted too soon.

Was going to add my congratulations, I know how much effort you’ve made ⭐️

Are you on a strict budget? Why is he eating your healthy food you could eat for your next meal? Is it because he wants it? Can’t make his own? He’s on a diet too? Or to stop you eating it?

Are you losing weight for you? Or him?

You don’t need to answer these here if you don’t want to, and I’m sure many wiser posters will have answered while I’m laboriously typing. But maybe answer them to yourself if you can

It's like a red rag to a bull to me. DH very rarely tries it now.

Ugh, ge sounds like a dick. This pisses me off. Stop policing other people's food intake! Big congratulations on your weight loss, OP.

@OnceUponAMidnightBeery he has always had irritating ‘superior’ tendencies but yesterday was the worst he’s ever been.

We are both well paid and are not short of money. He is just greedy and thought he was helping me.

I’m losing weight for me mainly. Things had to change.

"he has always had irritating ‘superior’ tendencies but yesterday was the worst he’s ever been."

Men like this get worse as they get older, or, which is what is happening in your case, worse when others are achieving.

You need to shut it right down and tell him straight.

However, I did wonder if he was asking you how much you were having because he wanted it. So he was hinting and hoping that you would just hand it over.

Why are you with him? He sounds like a knob
Tell him to fuck off with his advice

I did tell him to feck off don’t worry!