To also want to know how people are finding their 50’s

[Lardlizard]

? Inspired by the 40s thread

Ha ! I was wondering this too - being in the midst of the all changing 40s

Love them. I have no fucks left to give; we have paid off the mortgage, dh has retired, life is good.

A bit shit having only hit 50 last November. Fairly newly married and happy in that respect, good job and enough money. Lovely husband. But the menopause is truly truly shit and it overshadows everything else sometimes.

Fucking awful, thanks for asking. Hopefully things will improve in my 60s (2 years to go).

I turned 50 the year my husband imploded our family by threatening to kill me, then died 8 months later. I am 52 now. So far for me, 50s has meant freedom from an increasingly awful relationship, the restoration of joy to our house, a new job, being allowed to be utterly myself. The aching joints don't matter much in the scheme of things.

Ah well - good & bad I’d say
Bad - caring for and then saying goodbye to parents and their friends; own health not always great; more wrinkles & what is that noise they call music these days ?😂
Good - watching the next generation get established, I have a great-niece; much more confident and able to hold my own at work ; really good friends & more time for them; Still here; not caring about the wrinkles😁

Apart from difficult health issues it’s great, financially we’re in a better position than when we were younger with no mortgage, plus savings and investments. Married 33 years this year and still going strong, I’ve got no complaints, at least none that I can change

50-55 was very stressful as I was very vulnerable to redundancy and I would have found it very hard to get a similar job: once I hit 55 they would have had to give me my full pension so I would have welcomed it!

Career-wise I knew I was going no further how ever hard I worked, and was seen as a has-been which was rather sad. I just coasted till 60, stashed as much savings away as possible and counted down to semi-retirement.

My 60s are great, I think it is my happiest decade. More money, time and perspective than I have ever had. I am very lucky but I see it as recompense for the crap years

Pointy things 😵he threatened to kill you ?
That is so shocking
Do you mind me asking what did he die from ?

Apart from the arthritis,I love being in my 50s (55) I'm divorced,working,out of debt and happy!

Best decade of my life so far!

lardlizard he died from heart disease caused by long term serious alcoholism. I tried everything, including far too much, to support him but ultimately he didn't want to stop drinking.

I am still dealing with feeling guilty at being glad he died, but my rational head is winning. Life is good.

53. So far I’m very conscious of being the parent in my relationship with DM. Menopause was quite a force to be reckoned with and has highlighted both losses and gains - marriage could be better and I realise what I’ve lost in being the ‘fat plain one’ grateful for any male attention; but I’ve also found work I love doing and am constantly learning new things about myself. Eh, it’s a funny old life!

pointythings don’t indulge guilt. He was responsible, not you. Live your best life. You deserve it.

The 40's was brilliant for me. Found myself and got a job against all odds, but bloody hell I've turned 49 and I'm in a world of physical pain. I'm permanently knackered, perimenopausal and EVERYTHING hurts. A lot. I'm dead worried to be honest. If not soon actually dead.

Pointy thing good for
You girl, sounds like this is your time.... finally

Great! I'm 57 and my kids are teens still at home. My parents passed away some time ago. I'm a widow. I think I'm through menopause (thankfully no symptoms other than irregular periods then nothing).
I'm financially independent. I'm self employed. I answer to no one. I'm busy socially and exercise regularly. I don't have a romantic partner but I'm not that bothered - if it happens great but I'm not pining nor do I feel lonely. I have hobbies and interests that give me alot of pleasure. My kids are well adjusted. My son can give me quite a bit of grief at times but he's got a girlfriend, a part time job, is working towards his qualification and has alot of ambition. My daughter is very academically bright and a talented artist who works hard.
Negatives are I tend to look tired easily (even when not) and maybe not as flexible as before. I worry about my mortality. I am anxious for my children's future.
But overall I'm comfortable in my skin and in my opinions and I have alot to be thankful for.

Bloody brilliant. Loving every minute but ...... it's early days: I'm 53 next month. But yeah, so far it's the absolute dog's bol*ocks

52. A close friend died aged 52 6 months ago, soon to be followed by another one. I’m rounder than before. But my marriage gets better now I don’t have menstrual mood swings, I like and love my kids, I’m studying something I always wanted to, I still have healthy parents. Buying our dream house too. I worry less, and care less.
    On balance it’s good 😊

53 and it’s a new beginning for me. The year I turned 50 I discovered my husband had a series of affairs throughout out marriage, including one with a close family friend. He is now my ex-husband 😄 which although shit at the time, has liberated me.

My kids are successful young adults, both at good universities and so off my hands.

I have built my business up so that I can live comfortably but only work 40 weeks a year - in my holiday time I have started travelling and had all the experiences my ex was never prepared to do.

I joined a gym, got fit again, went online dating, rediscovered my sexual mojo and met some lovely people (few oddballs too!). Infinitely preferable to the misery that was my 40s.

Bit good, bit crap...

Health - had a heart attack at 52. Now 55 and gradually feeling "normal" again. But now "the menopause" is starting to rear it's lovely head...
Financially - mortgage paid, stepped back to part time working, taken CS pension early - let's face it, with my health problems, I may as well - so the best off financially that I have ever been - however... kids going to uni next year.... arghhhhhh...

Ups and downs a-plenty...

I'm 55 and had my kids a bit later than many. So I'm truly the sandwich generation, worrying about my parents in their 80s, one deteriorating with dementia, and also dealing with teens, one with mental health issues. I also have a fairly demanding newish job. So the stress levels are astronomical. Not to mention the awful marriage and pending separation and divorce.
However, the new job is great and just right for me. The pay is good and the future looks reasonably bright, if I can only make it through the next 2-5 years without losing the plot.
I really could do without the hot flushes and broken sleep though.

I finding that prevention is a hundred times better than a cure.

Trying to adapt to a healthier lifestyle and finding habits of my 40's hard to undo.

I'm not brilliantly healthy at the moment and really wish I'd listened and taken action earlier.

If only I could speak to my 40 something self.

I'm 57. All good so far. Menopause came and went, hardly noticed - so that's a blessing.
Husband retired - another blessing.
No mortgage, still working full time and we have extra money.
Went to Australia 2 years ago, going again this year.
Kids and grandchildren all in good health.

All in all, I would say definitely better than my 40's - count myself extremely lucky.

I’m 52 and although it feels like tempting fate to say it, I’m really pretty happy and, afaik, healthy.

Marriage wise, we’ve been very happily married for 20 years, our relationship is better than ever.

Health wise I’m up to date with mammograms, smears, eye tests and dentistry, although I probably ought to see the hygienist. My blood pressure is fine when I take it at home and I’m making a big effort to drink less alcohol, so have had quite a few months off drinking over the past year or so. I recently started HRT but my only symptom was anxiety and my period finally being absent so we’ll see how that goes.

I have a ds at university and a dd still at home and starting sixth form this year so another 2 years until she possibly goes to university. I love my house and my life generally. I only spend time with people I really like and prioritise things that make us all happy. I sleep well and I think I look ok for my age.

Professionally I’ve nothing to prove and may work again if something comes up but may not, either is fine. We will downsize once dd leaves.

I need to lose weight and I’m working on that but on the whole I’m really happy and like my life. I would love dh to retire too and that’s the plan when we downsize. I’ve had some useful therapy in the last couple of years and it’s been very helpful and has helped me through some challenges.