Upset about hormonal contraception and GP

[Aloneonprecipice]

Hi everyone.

First timer here and the reason being that I am really upset. So it's going to be long.

I am 38 and I realized that my entire life has been dictated by hormonal contraception and pregnancies.
I have 4 lovely kids (14 to 5 yrs), my life lines, but in-between their births is a mess of hormones. I have fought tooth and nail with their effects and to live a normal life. They gave me headaches and moods from hell, my skin full of melasma and I always ballooned 10kg+. I tried all of them to no help. And help it all I have mild depresson which kicks in hard with contraception.

My husband don't use condoms to the degree of hating them. Our first was a condom baby.

Now I have been on non-hormonal copper coil for 3+ years. Things were ok. I got anaemic with heavy periods and had headaches. But better than hormones. After 2 years of ok my periods got longer and yet longer. Now they are 12 days long, horrible pmt, extremely bad ovulation pain and constancy period ache all month long, and constant pressure down below and back side.

Hate it all more and more cause GP says it's not copper coil but change to dreaded mirena coil and my life will be flowers and fairies. She basically said that take pain killers for ovulation and iron for anaemia and get on with life. I wrangled out a ultrasound referral from here which is due next week.

I am just so tired of this all and rather scared of my new symptoms.

Thank u all. I just wanted a rant.

Thanks all for your replies ladies. I have made a decision of finally having a life of my own. It's just useless to round and round in circles. Thanks.

Or you could be sterilised. There will be lots of people coming on to ask why you should when you've had to take responsibility for contraception so far, but I had it done when my youngest was 2.
The side effects were:
Absolutely nothing physical. A couple of hours in hospital and one day off work.
Total peace of mind for ever after.

Vasectomy

Many trusts no longer fund female sterilisation, Burton, and it costs way more privately than vasectomy.

Could you not get sterlised?

I was offered a hystorectomy at 41 when undergoing bladder surgery, I was horrified that someone wanted to take my fertility away, I feel the same way towards DH, why should I take his fertility away. I'm on Minerva coil to stop flooding periods thanks to my GP glad that I am not only as I have very rare bleeds but now that I am entering menopause I can't have HRT due to my blood pressure, the coil in place eased my symptoms