How much does the wealth of the bridal couple affect your wedding present gift

[AnnDaloozier]

going to a wedding if an older couple. In UK but needs a flight, hotel etc. Fair enough.
Then I look at the gift list. No gifts - just donations to honeymoon. This also fine. BUT they’re loaded. Really loads of spare money

How can I donate without looking stingy. How much would you donate?.
WIBU to not donate?! 😱

£50 in my opinion especially when you’ve spent so much to get there

We generally do £50. £100 is a lot (unless you're flush too!)

My gift depends on how close we are, how much they've spent on the day/meal for their guests (i.e. if there's no sit down meal I won't give as much as they've spent a lot less) but not how much money the newlyweds have.

I give a standard rate of £50 for weddings, I would increase to £100 for extended family. I would give a gift to siblings.

I don't think it should matter how much the bride and groom earn. Just donate what is affordable and go and have a good time.

I got married abroad, didn't want gifts but got some that varied between 50 and 100. This is more than enough considering people had to fly over.

Not sure if the 'cover your plate' idea is realistic, a lot of weddings can cost £100 a head. And that means you're giving more to those who already have more, and potentially disparate amounts to people you're related to in the same way. That doesn't seem fair to me.

I would give less if only invited to part of the day. Also less if it costs me more to get there, eg a destination wedding.

I give £50 for anyone who isn’t a very close friend. I don’t go with “cover your plate” because where the bride and groom opt to have their wedding is nothing to do with me and I assume they chose the venue because it’s what they wanted: its not my shout to “repay” them for getting married in a place of their choice.

I always think the 'cover your plate' is an Irish thing.

Not certain

I've never thought to do it though. Seems strange to me.

As you are travelling in to attend a wedding 50 will more than suffice.

I always think the 'cover your plate' is an Irish thing.

It's certainly said here yeah. Average for a wedding gift here is €150-€200 more if they're close friends or family

Idk what 'cover your plate ' means!

Idk what 'cover your plate ' means!

You give how much you think the B&G spent on your "place". So if you have fresh grated truffles and gold covered zebra steak you give more than of you get meat and 2 veg.
I find it bit ridiculous so I don't do it like this. I decide on size of the gift based on how much I like the person not whether they can afford posh grab in 5* hotel or not...