Ex won’t do anything with dc

[WaxItLyrical]

I’m not sure how to tackle this anymore. Ex sees dc 14 and 8 every Saturday morning through to Sunday night and for the odd week in the holidays through the year. Due to work hours he doesn’t see them through the week. Despite numerous conversations with him he won’t do anything with them and while there they don’t leave the house, they spend the whole time playing computer games and don’t even get dressed. Youngest dc has started getting upset about this as when asked in class what they did at the weekend, he has nothing to say. I’ve explained, begged and shouted at ex about this before but every time it creates huge friction, the stop of maintenance and nothing changes. He’s extremely lazy! At the same time if I stop them going, they won’t see their dad and that would break their heart. I feel terrible about it all.

Do you not get any weekend time with them? I’d be looking at changing it to every other weekend if I were you so they can get out and about. You’ve tried asking him and he won’t do it so change it for the children’s benefit.

When do you visit family, go shoe shopping if you have no weekend time?

So do you only get Monday - Friday with them and never a weekend? That’s not fair to the kids or you as you deserve to have free time with them not just at night time after school. I would be looking to change it to every other weekend.

I don’t think you should stop contact for this I don’t do much on the weekends as by the end of the week I’m normally exhausted. You should changed it to every other weekend.

Agree that if he can’t step up and be an adequate you should change contact. Completely unacceptable and they won’t thank him for it when they are grown up.

Adequate parent I should say. Why does he want access if all he wants to do is screen time?

Court ordered or private arrangement? Either go back to court or re-arrange so they do alternate weekends with you. Poor kids. 😢

We have one weekend approximately once a month together, we do things like shopping etc of an evening. I have considered changing it to every other weekend, but Is it fair to only see the other parent twice a month? I don’t want dc to resent me for that either.