To feel weird about FIL and lip kissing

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I'm fully prepared to be told I'm being unreasonable and appreciate it's very hypocritical of me, but I can't explain why it bothers me so much and would love some opinions on the matter.

FIL always kisses dc on the lips when saying hello/goodbye. Big, sloppy lip kisses. DH and I often kiss dc on the lips, not every time but often.

I don't think it's because it's him rather than my own Dad or Mum. If they did I'd feel the same and would ask them kindly not to. My parents are cheek kissers.

FIL recently took huge offence when I removed a full wine glass he was letting our 1 year old dc2 play with and bite the edge of the glass. I received a real telling off from PIL about how he would never let him drink it and was only playing but I was ignored when I asked him not to in case the thin glass broke in his mouth.

AIBU to feel this way? Always feel the need to wipe their faces afterwards

YANBU

I'm a cheek kisser and don't like lip kissing on little children, I know it's meant to be sweet but it's weird. My DN used to lean in and give me a kiss on the lips when she was 4, which I didn't like because of the slobber that came with it, but would never say anything. But if wider family members were kissing my DC on the lips I'd ask them to stop. Don't have an issue with parents doing it as much but needs to stop at an appropriate age really.

I pointed out to a grown man in his 20s recently how bizarre it was that his parents kissed him on the lips when saying goodbye. He had never really paid attention to it and was mortified.

I kiss my 5 yo nephew on the mouth! And probably will until he reaches 6 and a half! Or he doesn’t wish to give me kisses anymore!

Lip kissing young children by random adults is a big no no from me, for the same reason that I'd not let them share drinking vessels either... I've seen young children who picked up a cold sore virus from an old uncle and were really ill because of it. Also have a cousin who was given a wine glass in a high chair at Christmas, waved it around, broke it, then brought it up to her mouth and sliced it mouth. Still has the scar..
So I'd also remove the glass from someone who sits there telling you its all OK. The fact that he is actively contradicting you is not on. Stick to your guns. Who cares what he thinks!

I've never kissed anyone on the lips other than romantic partners. Was well into adulthood before I realised some people kiss their children on the lips!

DH and I have no plans to kiss any of our children on the lips. I wouldn't allow anyone else to do this. They should be respecting your wishes, and I think it's reasonable to restrict lip kissing to parents only.

Ffs lip kissing isn’t ‘romantic.’ There’s nothing wrong with it and anyone who says so has serious issues!

If my kids are happy to kiss relatives on the lips then that's fine with me.
DC4 always kisses on the lips, DC3 offers a cheek, DC1 and 2 have never really done kisses much.
I wouldn't accept anyone making them give a kiss or a hug if they don't want to though which hasn't always gone down well.

Both sets of grandparents kissed mine on the lips, I had no issues with it at all.
We kiss our kids and grandkids on the lips, our eldest is 34.
It's perfectly normal to us.

'There's nothing wrong with it and anyone who says so has serious issues' - have people paid no attention at all to guidance as to how to avoid transmission of viruses?

My MIL does this to both DH and myself, we both hate it!! It was DH that warned me to turn at the last second to avoid it!

I see this come up quite a lot, there seem to be a few boundary blurring, lip kissing FILs. For me, lip kissing is shocking unless I consent to it. I really don't want to sound like some kind of militant prude but it's an absolute no-no for me. I'm not even a huggy person. And I hate to see it happen to children. It used to make me so uncomfortable as a child.

The glass thing....only an absolute idiot would think a glass (not to mention full of wine) is fine for a baby to mess with. Of course it's right you pulled him up on it.

We are a family that have never kissed on the lips, cheeks only. I am the same with my children. Not something I’m comfortable with.