Bringing things from Ex wife house ?

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Hi all,

My mother lives in a council house where we grew up. And she recently has her partner move in with her. He has been in a long process of divorcing his ex who also found a partner and lives in a council house with their kids, as a main tenant.

Anyhow, ever since he moved into mums house he has been bringing off bits of furniture, pots, pans, even clothing from his ex wife which he says are charity. Other items he says he feels he is entitled to them as he never got anything from the house.

My mum has only met his children (late teens and adults) twice and I worry that if they come and visit and see stuff from their home they will feel irritated.

Am I right to tell mum this is weird and he should seperate his feud with his wife from my mother ? I know it’s not my business but technically my mum is quite a passive person

To clarify, one of my siblings lives with my mum still and I moved out (renting) and have my own kids but regularly visit my mum. And so do my other siblings

OP, your post is a bit confusing.

The items that he's bringing to your mum's, do they belong to him? Is his ex wife allowing him to take them or is he breaking in and stealing them? And how does this affect you?

What's the importance of the homes being council houses?

You're right it's none of your business though.

OP - I'm confused, is he just stealling things from his old home or is this stuff he's agree with his ExW that will be his? When a couple break up, usually it's not just the person who keeps the house keeps all the stuff, usually they do split the homeware between them. It would be weirder to expect your Dad to walk away from his marriage owning only his clothes, and all other items in the house not being viewed as equally his.

Basically, there's nothing strange about seeing your divorced parent's new home and seeing items that belonged to them before they split with your other parent.

It is very strange for your parent who has left the family home to be sneaking back in and taking more things without agreeing it with their ex.

More importantly, what is your Mum doing - she's moved a man in who hasn't got his divorce sorted and still is in the middle of a petty squabble with his ex W - he's still emotionally invested in his old relationship, he's not ready for a new one. Has he gone from his old family home to your Mum's family home?

A man who is petty and can't let go of things, sneaks around stealing items rather than having a grown up conversation like "I would like to take X Y and Z, you can keep A B and C." is not a good partner option.

I'd be more bothered that your mum has let this bloke whom she barely knows move in with her. Convenient for him, wasn't it?