Fed Up! WWYD

[ElChapo]

It was my birthday on Friday and while I didn't particularly want to celebrate it (number's getting too high for my liking and money's a bit tight at the moment) my husband said we'll just go out for something to eat on Sunday with our two kids. Sunday comes and when I ask if we're going out for lunch he just says that he can't be bothered. After throwing a hissy I just went out and did some shopping by myself. I'm seriously pissed off!! Not sure what to do next, if I'm honest. WWYD?

I would have booked a place i liked and got everyone out the door

Is this a pattern for your husband?

If it's a one off I wouldn't mind much and would make plans for a nice meal with girlfriends this week. If your husband is often promising you things and then letting you down I would be more annoyed and have a talk with him. I always make reservations for my birthday so that I know I'll like where we're going.

Did you explain how much you looking forward to it. Can you do something in the wk instead?.

Not sure what I would do but must say I'd likely be disappointed (yes, even if I didn't plan to celebrate anything).

Disappointed? I'd be livid. I think you handled this much better than I would! Mine would find his clothes in a black sack at the front door.

I do feel like I'm not a priority sometimes. He's works hard, don't get me wrong but it's only when I get annoyed will he ever get off his backside and do anything around the house. I work full time as well, btw, so I would've just like to have felt appreciated on my birthday

You know what to do on his then!

I'd be gutted. My dh did this once, a few years ago. I wanted to go out for dinner with dd and him. He huffed and got all pissy and I ended up feeling crap, trying to be all smiley and force a good time. He was so grumpy it just ruined it. Our situation was slightly different, there was more shit marriage stuff underneath it all. However, when we were in therapy I told him how hurt I was and how shit he'd made me feel. I made him promise to put me first, for one day on my birthday. I want a fuss, a nice dinner and for my family to be lovely to me. It is one day.