My son is 16 months old. I left the relationship with his dad when he was 3 months old. His dad was sexually, emotionally, financially abusive, and was abusive to our son. Wouldn't let me pick him up or feed him because he 'needed to learn' (at 6 weeks old), and got angry and frustrated with him when he cried (I left the day after he nearly shook him with help from women's aid). He took me to court to see our son, but the courts so far have only awarded indirect contact by way of photographs. It's going to a fact finding then a decision will be made re his contact. I moved back with my family nearly 200 miles away, and my son is thriving. He's securely attached to me and both of my parents and he's just an incredibly happy little boy.
I am worried that his dad will be given access (as courts often do this even in cases of abuse) and he will suffer for it. Realistically, how good a relationship could my son have with his abusive dad, from 200 miles away? How would contact even work? I'm really terrified about the whole thing. I have a non molestation order against him and don't sleep at night for fear he will turn up. I am so scared for my son