To think you get less sociable as you get older?

[littleblackdress04]

Or is it just me?! I am 46 and find that I much prefer to be at home reading rather than going out. And that these days I prefer daytime socialising to nighttime! I reckon I see a friend about once a week in various contexts- might be going for a run with a friend, a coffee, sometimes early evening tea in the pub etc, catching up at a kids swimming lesson etc. I don’t go out drinking like I used to, partly because I love my bed and like to be home by 10 - I would such a granny!!
I just like my own company more these days and with the combination of full time work and kids, also like being at home!

Aibu? Anyone else like this or am I just getting old? Sometimes I see people on social media still out at night clubs and it’s terrifying 👵🏻

@ssd I agree about crappy restaurant meals- we took the kids to pizza express recently for a treat and it was £70 for 4 people for pizzas, deserts and drinks 😵 I spent £70 yesterday in Aldi for a weekly family shop!!

I’m late 20s and last time I went “out,out” was two years ago.
Don’t see the excitement on going out every week, with the same old people, doing the same old thing, talking about the same old crap that people never end up doing, and waking up with the same old hangover. Bit depressing!

Oh god yes. I'm 41 and I was thinking just this yesterday - I was staring lustfully through the window of a high-end furniture store the way I used to do with clothes shops, and realised that it's because rather than getting dressed up and going out, I want to stay in, in comfort, so how my hone looks is far more important these days than how I look!

It is easier for me to meet up with people who are part of my day to day life. People I know through work, my DC's school or my hobbies. I don't enjoying meeting up with my oldest friends now. We seem to have grown apart and have nothing in common which is sad. I think it is because they still go on nights out and I don't. I only do day time socialising.

@RhodaCamel I went to the garden centre yesterday 😂 Love a bit of National trust tea room action too 🙈

I like to get out for a change of scene. I have a Tastecard so often eat at the chain restaurants. Later today my DH and I will go for a walk at a costal place and a meal with the Tastecard which is BOGOF for as many courses as you want. The whole day will cost about £20 plus petrol.

littleblackdress04 garden centres are my second homes, free to park, nice cafes. I also love a NT day out!

No. I'm much older than you and I still love going out. Just do more going out during the day and back home by 10 these days.

Yes. Absolutely. But I'm 28 🤦‍♀️ and I'd rather not socialise. Ever.

Definitely
Now see close friends maybe twice a year. I’m content with family life and enjoy solitude as and when it comes.
Yet 15-20yrs should I would never have imagined a life outside the circle of close friends- I guess I’m content.

I think there is such a pressure on people, that they all think unless they are having Dinner parties ,seeing friends all the time and so on ,they will develop FOMO(FEAR of missing out)! When many of us just like to chill .I am in my 50s and feel exhausted a lot of the time .Nothing nicer than watching Endeavour with DP and dog! Do go to pub quiz each week ,but everyone on our team is falling asleep by 10 .30 !(Cant go home till 11 in case we have won LOL!

I could have written your post OP - same age, same wish to have a nice early night and sleep well!

Well auto correct certainly fucked up that reply - hopefully you got the gist

I'm 45 and just can't be bothered with the effort anymore. I have 3 DCs, work full time, single parent, I just don't have the energy or the inclination any more.

I'm pretty sure this has led to me not receiving invitations anywhere now but it really doesn't bother me. I love my home and being with my kids.

I did all my partying in my 20s, still go on the odd works night out but that's it. I now feel no shame in replying, "Because I don't want to!" when asked why I don't want to go on this night out or that night out. Being mid 40s and peri menopausal is so liberating!

I'll probably die alone and be eaten by my cats but I will have lived a happy life 👍🏼

Not really, no.

Spent 10 years in a boring marriage to someone whose idea of R&R was to zone out in front of back to back action movies and would not look after my DD.

When we split I became determined not to waste my free time again and have an absolute phobia of dead time.

Yes I get more tired more easily now and rarely want to stay out to 3am. And crave a quiet night in sometimes. But for me I’m not really alive if I’m not using time productively. I want to see as much as possible if the people I love and have fun with them while I still have them. If that means being tired sometimes, that’s the price to pay.

Ah I can so relate.
I'm 48 and like nothing better than relaxing at home with my family. But when I have done this for too long I get the fear that I should be socialising!
I do love getting out and seeing friends and do this at weekends or when I have a week off. Not so much in the evenings when I'm working. I feel I am pretty sociable but in shorter bursts with people I really like. Daytime drinks are my favourite!
I completely agree with the poster who said they can't be doing with small talk....ug.

Love the sound of that gift shop too!

One thing I will add to this thread though is that I do go to Glastonbury once a year literally party my arse off for 4 days! Maybe it takes me the rest of the year to get over it and I save my party energy for that!!! 😆

I've done the big festivals in later life too! now prefer small local ones. I honestly find socialising a strain now. Much prefer to people watch and eavesdrop

Looking forward to dolling up and going to nice places alone when the weather calms its tits a bit. I do tend to slob out indoors!

Totally agree, I always liked my own space but as I’ve hit mid 40s with a full time job, I’m quite happy to maintain my small circle but otherwise love being at home reading/Netflix to my heart’s content.

@Prepenultimate- totally agree
When I was younger I felt pressured to go against my natural personality which was that of an introvert. I think of the NYE celebrations which I always hated
Now that I am older and more confident I am more inclined to stay at home.

I agree with OP I love going out during daytime but not so much in the evening now. I work and have several hobbies which means I meet plenty of people and also socialise throughout the week. I love coming home and snuggling on the sofa with family and cats

Gosh I feel the same. Though I've felt like it since I turned 30!

I love a good night out ... but rarely. Dressing up, few drinks, dancing and socialising, still fun but only once a year! Last one was last October. I love meeting close friends for a boozy late lunch though. Still only do this once a month, if that.
I love a clean and cosy home, fire on, glass of wine/G&T and Netflix.
I also find I socialise less at work in the day. I am very busy but Im not bothered about gossiping at lunchtime like I was 10 years ago.