Party invites

[malteasers79]

So a WhatsApp message about a party was put on the class group thead, invitations to follow. Lots replied on whatsapp to say yes we'd love to come, including me. Couple of weeks go by and no other invitation then a message asking what food choices people want for the kids. Replied to the message along with others. Just realised we never actually had the 'proper' invite and now ultra paranoid that ours was lost / deliberately not sent. Aibu to think that it's ok for us to rock up having only seen the group message?

I would message the mum to check first but it is incredibly rude of her to message a group if not all are invited.

I’d go along and assume we were invited.

I agree that it’s really rude to put on a group thread if not inviting everyone but some people are really rude...

I'd not just turn up. I think you need to have a word with the mum.

I’m on a group WhatsApp with the mums of DS’s closest 7 friends.
One mum posted to check if anyone who hadn’t replied was coming or not. We’d not seen an invite so I didn’t reply, only for her to approach me and check: apparently our invite had got lost.
Another time the first we heard was thank you for coming messages and photos of everyone’s/ everyone else’s dc at the party. DS was aware and had been categorically told by the birthday boy he wasn’t invited (not a problem, but just shows that sometimes people post to groups without giving thought to who is in them)
i’d check before turning up...

Thanks -. Also thought the same. as we are not really friends I'm deliberating over how to ask her, since she will have seen my replies! Think it would be weird to spam everyone if not all invited though.

Thanks. So true!

Just message her directly and ask.

I’d think you’re definitely invited. If all the the party info (times etc) is on the WhatsApp group you don’t need to ask the mum anything. If you think everyone else had a paper invitation and you didn’t I’d message mum saying “Just double checking DS is invited to the party as per your WhatsApp invitation as he hasn’t brought home a paper invitation from school. Thanks!”

Maybe there wasn’t an “official” paper invitation? I would just reply with your food choice and leave it at that- if you’re not invited she’s very rude and it’s on her to set you straight.