What's the male version of Mumsnet?

[Noconceptofnormal]

You know how men sometimes come on Mumsnet to canvas the opinions of women to get their perspective?

I know some men use Mumsnet but I think it's fair to say the majority of users are women. Is there an equivalent forum to Mumsnet for men (which is not about sport or a hobby etc), which men use to just to talk about life in general?

And have you ever gone on there to ask for men's point of view?

There are loads of subreddits, you can't dismiss every man on there as not being your 'type of person'.

There are definitely posters on here that say they are male ( no reason why i should disbelieve them )

So you could post asking for male opinions...you probably wouldn’t get then, but it would be worth a try

Honestly, the rest of the internet. There's no "man place" because they don't think of themselves as people that having being a man in common. Being the group in power, the ones who set the standards, they just think of themselves as default people.

We, being not part of the standard, do identify as "women", because the default people define us that way.

There’s a few I know of but require a referral from a men’s service. My partner uses reddit, I mean I’d like to think he asks advice and stuff but I think he just talks about tents and hiking tbh.

The rest of the Internet is the male version of Mumsnet.

Seriously, it is, we’re not saying it to be silly.

It’s because male = default = all spaces belong to them,

Female = other = niche spaces required.

Ffs, I knew it would only be a matter of time before someone brought up ARRSE. Like some of the pondlife that inhabit that site are genuinely representative of men in general. (Hint; they aren’t).

I don’t think men gather in the same way that women do, which is why most support groups are female dominated and men tend to gravitate towards practical activities that give them an excuse to hang out and talk. That’s why “men in sheds” projects are so popular these days. I think you could extrapolate that to the internet as well. I think you get a fair number of men on AIBU because it’s a good place for drama and a row though.

Postman Pat .

Dh reads a shooting forum that seems to be similar...as in men getting together to talk about all sorts of random things. He reads it mostly for info on shooting and DIY and car repair and a few things related to his profession. But he says the views expressed on there are appalling. He sometimes sends me screenshots when he is in absolute shock by the amount of complete wankers out there. And reddit.

@stouffer,
ARRSE is an interesting place. There's a breadth of knowledge, often some shocking attitudes but I've been a member for years & have often found information & advice there that's sensible, practical and reasonable.
There's a few moonhowlers, like any site, one just learns to ignore them.

Postman Pat grin.

^

mindutopia what kind of appalling views? Shooting related or general?

sagrada I'm not saying no one on reddit is like me, but I get the impression most are younger, at a different life / career stage. I'm more looking for the opinions of blokes in their 40s or 50s, reddit feels like 20s-30s.

I've actually found ARRSE quite interesting! I think the cohort is probably too Armed Forces focused to be able to generalise to general bloke opinions but at least they talk about life stuff / relationships etc.

Maybe I'll ask the same question on both and see where I get flamed the most!

I also really do get the point about 'the rest of the internet' and men... But I can't get a bloke perspective 'on the rest of the internet', but as you say I don't think the equivalent of Mumsnet exists for men, as why would it, they don't need it.

Kiwifarms

Just post it to Reddit askmen and ask for approximate age range of respondents if you want to disregard opinions of younger guys. There are all types of people on there. If it's an interesting enough question you'll get plenty of responses to sift through.

Or just post to AskReddit for higher traffic but accept you will be getting opinions from both men and women unless it's something that women wouldn't be able to give opinions on

Reddit Am I the asshole (AITA) is similar to mumsnet AIBU. They also have Just No MIL forums as well which are really good.

www.thedadsnet.com/

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/dadsnet

@ChinookPilotsGoVertical. I wouldn’t disagree with what you’ve said about the ARRSE forums (and ARRSEopedia) for that matter, and as someone who spent time in the army (as perhaps you also did?) I like to visit occasionally for a bit of easy nostalgia. The problem is that because the anonymity of the net enables people to behave however they want with little consequence, if the membership of a forum are used to acting like dickheads in real life they’ll be twice as bad online.

Let’s face it, Tom is known for a brutal sense of humour and general disdain for anything that doesn’t fit their frame of reference so any forum made up of people like that is bound to be quite skewed and unpleasant. I realise I may have misunderstood the intent behind your post but I’ve seen women on MN try to justify some really shitty attitudes by saying “well, if you think we’re bad you should see what men are like on ARRSE”. ARRSE isn’t representative of all men; it’s not even representative of all ex squaddies for that matter.

In the interest of balance, I’m a member of a large hobby forum that is mostly men between about 30 and 70 with a few women as well. The moderators are quite strict about sexism, racism, homophobia etc but tbh they rarely need to step in as the members police themselves. Anyone who does step out of line gets pulled up quick smart and rarely stay afterwards, just through peer pressure. That’s reflective of most of the men I choose to spend time with; ARRSEholes can go take a running jump as far as I’m concerned.

football forums but usually one for their favourite team so no one stop shop.

DH reads the forum for his footie team.

Singltrackworld chat section is a good one. I often think its the way Mumsnet should go as 90% of posts are on AIBU or chat and far less on all the other boards.

Singltrackworld has two boards, mountain bikes and general chat and as far as I can see, the general chat section is a male dominated version of Mumsnet chat and AIBU combined with discussions that range from the serious 'isnt Brexit, the government, the situation in Sudan truly awful' to 'if I wash my bike chain in the dishwasher will DW divorce me or what's your favourite takeaway'. So just like here really.

moonhowlers!!!!!! Love it!

Singletrackworld seems like a good suggestion actually, thanks. This is all quite interesting, an insight into a different world.

@stouffer,
I agree with your view - I've seen stuff on there that goes beyond banter and might be said to be verging on cruelty. I've also seen {&received} acts of the utmost generosity & kindness.
There's obviously a service bias & as you said that skews views of other units or civilians sometimes - kind of them & us. I know which posters' views are worth taking & which aren't.
Who did you serve with?

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