There's two parts to this.
Firstly, if you have school age children and a partner who all do very little to nothing to help around the house, and you work full time out of the house, do you think it's possible to have a tidy house and to ever get time to just sit down in the evening?
Secondly, has anyone successfully managed to change the behaviour of their family, to get them to help more? Whenever I try to talk about it, I get told to stop moaning that they will try more, but nothing changes.
DD is quite capable, and she tries but she is inherently lazy and leaves her stuff around no matter how much I tell her to take it to her room/put plates in the kitchen, etc. She means well though, and the intention is there and possibly I just need to guide her more on what she could specifically do to help me.
DS has ADHD and ASD. Just getting dressed and ready for the day can be a huge task and take an hour, so I feel like it's an achievement when the necessities are done, let alone then fighting over emptying the dishwasher, or picking up mess on the table, or whatever else.
I'm going back to work full time, after having not worked for the past year. When I was working previously, I was mostly working from home, whereas I will now be office based. I'm going to come home at the end of the day, will have to clean up everyone's breakfast stuff that will still be in the sink, and all the other morning mess that no one will have touched, then will have to do the laundry and get dinner on and prepare packed lunches for the next day, run around to activities, etc. DH works full time as well and will get home when most of the running has been done, in time for dinner. When I tell him that I'm worried about it, he just says that I did it before and it will all be fine, but of course it's fine to everyone else because they don't realise how much is involved in just the basics. I have done it before but I was exhausted all the time, the house was always a mess (except for one day a week when the cleaner comes) and I'm dreading all of the juggling again. But I know that no matter what I say, the attitude and behaviour of everyone at home isn't going to change, and they'll keep expecting me to just keep going. I'm in quite a panic about it, and I don't know what to do. I feel like even the little bits they can do won't change the bigger picture. I'm always going to be the one doing all the laundry, making all the meals, fighting with DS to get ready in the morning. I don't see any of that changing. Can anyone give me some hope by telling me that they have managed to implement significant changes with their family in how the household is run?