Birthday

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If your OH forgot how upset would you be. OH works longer hours so I pick up all house hold chores. I feel this was his annual time to express appreciation for that and he forgot.

My OH wouldn’t have the opportunity forget because I talk about it on the run up. Why would you not? I would be very upset if I had spoke about it to him and then he still didn’t bother. If that is the case here, and you’re in no way being a martyr, then YANBU.

I wouldn't care to be honest, in fact I'd be happy if it was (no chance of that). I'm really not in to my birthday in any way at all. I can remember last year my wife saying "it's your birthday next week" and me thinking, oh god!!

If I was on my own and had no family around, I wouldn't bother with it.

Mine did a few years ago.
It's also our Wedding Anniversary on the same date
He did remember about 4 or 5 days later...muttering something along the lines of, "erm, was it your birthday on Monday?"

He's lucky that i don't give a monkeys

Or I'd have had a new patio

Umm do you not talk about it prior to the date. We have it on calendars and chat about how old we are and whether the other persons wants anything particular for presents or a surprise.

Did you not have any conversation leading up to it?

I’d have been talking about it, making plans to see friends, nice dinner etc so he wouldn’t.

A friends husband forgot Valentine’s Day but they both acknowledge they rarely celebrate it and hasn’t talked about it so it’s understandable in that scenario.

Do you usually celebrate your birthday with him?

I dont understand these threads, me and DH would never forget each other birthdays simply because it gets mentioned in the run up, things like "it's my birthday next Monday" type of thing don't you discuss it?

"it's my birthday next Monday" type of thing don't you discuss it? 

Mine always gets mentioned, I just try to avoid saying very much back.

He should be showing you he appreciates you every day op not just once a year

I'd be really upset if my husband forgot my birthday, not that this would ever happen

I wouldn’t care because I’m not a birthday person.

But I do agree with others that it’s odd it didn’t come up in conversation in the build up at all.

I'd be pissed off if there was no acknowledgement.

DP doesn't buy cards from himself but last year he didn't get one from our DD (only a few months old at the time) until I mentioned it the night before and rushed out to get it.
We had serious talks about that.

If he doesn’t get a card from himself and you have accepted that then why would you expect him to go out and buy one from a baby?

I'd be really unhappy.

My OH wouldn’t have the opportunity forget because I talk about it on the run up

This! We discuss what we are going to do for each of our birthdays etc in the run-up to it, so there's no chance to forget!

Although, be honest, I did almost miss DH's birthday last year - not because I'd forgotten when it was, I knew exactly what date it was, but because we had a new baby and I lost track of the days and what date it was and then suddenly realised it was a couple of days away and I hadn't really done anything. He hadn't mentioned it either as he hadn't realised it was so close too

We always talk about birthdays here & what we are planning. I tend to do something with family & friends as does dh. So no real chance to forget. Anniversaries are often forgotten by both of us. If we are both free & we remember we may do something on that night or nearest Saturday to it.

I'd be right totally pissed off if my dh forgot my birthday

@Sirzy because that's different. It was my first birthday as a parent and I wanted some acknowledgement of that. He'd had a card from the baby for his birthday.