Mothers day food who do I mesg?

[Marilynmansonsothereye]

Maybe more a wwyd!
Me (40) would like to take my mum (74) out on mothers day somewhere like a tea room or nice pub nowt fancy/expensive.

I was going to message my half sis (48) and ask if she would like to make it a joint thing for our mum, that would be quite nice. But then I thought she has my niece and nephew (16 and 18) shouldn't it be them I message to ask if they would like to take their Mum out, because It's her Mother's day too... would it be disrespectful of me to not acknowledge her mothers day?
Would it be nicer to treat my niece and nephew in a more 'adult' way and ask them it they'd like to join me by taking their mum out at same time? I'm overthinking this aren't I...

Yanbu=ask your half sis about mother's day
Yahu= message your niece and nephew

There should be a take your mum out yourself what everyone else does is their business, option. .

Would the 16 and 18 year old be able to afford to take their mum out?

I think it’s nice to give your sister the option to spend Mother’s Day with her mum.

I would ask your half sister if she would like to join you on a trip out with your mum. Assuming her DC are invited, she could presumably check with them if they are happy with the arrangement. I suspect 16 and 18 year old probably can't afford to take their mum out, so would be happy to join in on a family outing.

The 18 year old warns a lot and lived with his parents still so definitely. But that is why I specified I meant somewhere cheap and cheerful anyway. She wouldn't let my college goer niece pay anyway.

It is. I am now wondering if she may prefer it to be just the two of them too and I guess only she can answer that :) we aren't close although we get on well so I'm just not sure.

Earns not warns!

I would ask the 16 and 18 year old, they might be happy to go if it saves them the hassle of thinking of a gift then going to buy it. The worst that can happen is they say no and then it will just be your Mum and sister. I guess they would have to go half's on their Mums food then each pay for their own.

as a gm & mum why don't you split the weekend & take your dm & ds out for tea one day over the weekend together (ie the Saturday& dn could come too)& than let ds have the other day with her dc while you get dm to your place or take her out to garden centre & bring her home for dinner/tea at your home (that way it can be a mothers day weekend (we do this so dd's husbands/bfs can have mothers day with their dm - as long as you make them feel special does the actual day of the week matter?

That's a good idea mumwon & thanks for the voice of experience

no probs have a nice weekend :)