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To wonder can everything really be different in a year

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User5373839 · 21/02/2020 15:43

I keep seeing these quotes about how your life can be completely different within in a year. To me it just seems like such a short space of time for everything to do different.

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Happierwithouthim · 21/02/2020 15:46

It’s taken two years for me for all the changes to happen but life is so much better than two years ago, it had started improving twelve months ago

Mintjulia · 21/02/2020 15:51

Yes. From November 2007 when I was employed, childless, single to

November 2009 when I was unemployed, partnered with a ds, living 100 miles away, to

November 2011 when I was single employed parent, living alone back down south, new house.

Thankfully the last 8 years have been a bit more peaceful Grin

Glassio · 21/02/2020 15:51

I live in a different part of the country, have rebuilt a house and have a new job than I did this time last year, and I hadn't planned either at that point. i think a year can be a long time especially you're proactive in making the changes.

Chasingsquirrels · 21/02/2020 15:54

In a year I went from happily planning a wedding to being widowed.

In a year I went from childless to being a mother.

In a year I went from living in the UK to living overseas.

In a year I went from married to separated.

Thankfully all different years!!

A year can be no time at all, and yet can feel like an eternity.

Dinomom52 · 21/02/2020 15:55

You have to want to make changes.

We went from me being on sick leave, my partner being made redundant & loosing our rented home (landlord was selling).

Less than 12 months later, we were both back at work & had bought our own house.

If you put the work in, you can definitely do it. My goal this year is to improve our finances. I’m finding it hard, but it’s not going to change if I don’t change things.

Enchiladas · 21/02/2020 16:23

In one year I went from being long-term single, childless, apparently infertile, to being a married mother :) Things really can change in a year.

notacooldad · 21/02/2020 16:27

In a 10 month period I went from being with my boyfriend ticking a long nicely to being a married mother in a new ( to us )house that need renovating and my job being finished and on the redeployment register at work.
Everything was a bit of a whirl.

Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 21/02/2020 16:31

Yup, I went from being an unemployed single mother, to meeting dp, running my own bissiness, learning to drive, buying my first car, conceiving ds2 and getting engaged within about 18 months.

BlueChangling · 21/02/2020 16:33

Summer 2018 - Working in a job where work place bullying was the norm and spent most days feeling like I couldn't breathe. I went to the GP as I was feeling suicidal... really couldn't see a way out and was diagnosed with Generalised Anxiety Disorder.

Summer 2019 - Had been on St John's wort for a few months and was starting to feel the positive effects. Also had been in my new job a few months working with a really great team my confidence was slowly returning. GAD was under control thanks to meditation sessions, and finally felt like I was able to appreciate life.

It does get better.

MyCatScaresDogs · 21/02/2020 16:33

This time last year, DP was working away, my MIL was about to celebrate her birthday, and I was struggling to juggle childcare pick-ups and a fairly demanding job.

Now, I’m on mat leave with an unexpected but very welcome second baby, DP is back in his normal work location and life is easier.

But sadly, we won’t be travelling some distance this weekend for MIL’s significant birthday party - instead we are some months into trying to sell her house and wrap up her estate after she died suddenly last year.

So lots has changed for us in a year, especially for DP.

LooksBetterWithAFilter · 21/02/2020 16:37

A year goes by quickly but a lot can change in a year. I had relocated as a single parent to another part of the country rented for 7 months until I found a house and literally at the last week of the 12 months had my first date with now dh. None of these things were a long time in the making in fact the relocation decision happened in 2 days with the move very soon after that.

Ohidontknow99 · 21/02/2020 16:41

This time last year I had a different house , partner and job so yes it can :)

Finfintytint · 21/02/2020 16:42

Yes things can change quickly.
This time last year my mum was still alive.
My husband’s factory was still open.
We were happily renovating our retirement cottage.

Now none of the above apply. We are selling our dream cottage to relocate 350 miles away.

LionelRitchieStoleMyNotebook · 21/02/2020 16:53

Yes in the space of a year we bought a house, got married, then I fell pregnant. The work hard, play hard, love to travel life disappeared in a little over twelve months! I know some aspects will be back sooner than others though and I'm very happy with the life we have now.

On a less positive note one of my best friends lost both of her parents and called off her engagement and sold their joint property in a little over a year. Things can happen quickly.

BirthdayCakes · 21/02/2020 16:59

In terms of behaviour one year isn't much - you're unlikely to go from self hating, ready meal microwaving, couch potato to dynamic go getter in a year.

But obviously things like buying a house, having a baby, or getting married happen in a year..

WingBingo · 21/02/2020 17:01

I the space of a year I went from married for 10 years, given up on IVF after 4 failed attempt, to divorced, then engaged to some one else and pregnant with my first.

WeirdCatLady · 21/02/2020 17:01

Two years ago I was morbidly obese, alcoholic, tired and depressed.

I’ve lost seven stone, quit drinking and now enjoy exercise. My life is now pretty good.

You can do anything you set your mind to.

JustBecauseItWorkedForYou · 21/02/2020 17:05

Yes this time last Yr me and now dh went through a rough patch.
Even thought of canceling wedding.
We sorted things when I finally spoke to him( my fault MH took a dip and I didn't open up to him and alienated him and made him feel crap and unwanted)
I had a MC.

4 weeks after mc found out was expecting.. Then got married after all. Baby born and dh found an amazing job less than 10 min from home with great hours doing what he loves.

annie987 · 21/02/2020 17:05

Within a year I bought a new house, got a new job, moved the children to a better school and lost 3 stone.

Dixiechickonhols · 21/02/2020 17:07

I lost 5 stone in 8 months last year. Size 18/20 to a 10/12. Look and feel very different.

lazylinguist · 21/02/2020 17:12

Wow WeirdCatLady - that is some turnaround! Well done you!

I guess the thing is that some things that will change your life are based on a single decision which can be taken very quickly (like quitying your job or deciding to relocate). Others are a long slog of habit changing.

UncleHerbie · 21/02/2020 17:48

Oct 2017 single and six months bereaved of DM ...

Oct 2018 engaged and planning life in a new home, new city and new job with my beloved DP

Jan 2019 resigned and moved from London to Leeds

Feb 2019 married

EmpressLangClegInChair · 21/02/2020 17:54

In a year I went from being in a civil partnership, deeply in debt, unemployed & suicidal to being single, happy, & in a job I loved (still do!) with my finances well under control. It’s definitely possible.

NotAProperGrownUp · 21/02/2020 17:58

A year ago today I was married, financially secure, working in a part time job I loved, just starting my own business, struggling a bit with dh’s excessive workload and regular conferences away...

A year ago next week I found out he had been having an affair for 18 months...

Fast forward to today - I’ve bought a house, for a new job (which I love and gives me financial stability), rediscovered old friendships and made some wonderful new ones, been on a couple of dates, met someone I actually quite like.

Nine months ago I was a mess. Good friends, therapy and determination not to spend the rest of my life sobbing into a wine glass for me this far!

Bacardi101 · 21/02/2020 18:01

For me yes 100% a year ago I was in a very violent relationship and felt I had no way out and would have considered suicide if it wasn’t for my Dd’s to complete freedom and happiness with my daughters and although early days at the start of a new relationship that I finally feel and equal in this year has literally changed my life ❤️