To be upset with my childminder?

[Ilovemyboy]

DS (9mths) has been going to the childminders for 2 days a week for about 6 weeks now. Everything has been going well and I think that DS has adapted quite well to being left with her although does stick his bottom lip out sometimes when I drop him off in the morning which is perfectly normal. There have been no problems up until today.

DS' top teeth are coming through and he is really whingey as expected. I told her this this morning and said that she can be liberal with the Calpol as he had been really suffering yesterday and was up all night last night. According to his book she had only given him 2.5ml of Calpol all day so you can imagine what sort of day they had both had.

Because of Tube strikes I was late (for the first time ever) picking him up and let her know beforehand to which she said she would charge me for it which I agreed was understandable. When I got there I was only 20 mins late and she looked really frazzled and knackered. She went on about DS needing cuddles all day and not having much sleep and remarked on how it was a good job that she didn't have the other little boy that she looks after this week because if she did then she wouldn't be able to look after the other boy AND cuddle DS all day which I thought was unfair. It makes me wonder if she is coping well with DS (who I have to admit is v.boisterous and doesn't sit still for a minute - like most 9mth old inquisitive babies). He is a little baby and his teething his inevitable. She should have known when she took him on that stuff like this was going to happen.

She then went on to tell me that she had to tell her 16yo son that she couldn't pick him up from football practice so he had to walk home and that if it was the night she had her osteopaths appt then I would have had to have paid for it because she would have been charged for it had she missed it - so really laying it on thick because I was late. I was really apologetic and felt really bad but told her that I did everything to get there on time.

What do you think about this? I have come away feeling a bit pissed off tbh. I am considering putting him in a nursery. I think it will be better for him being around a lot of children and being a bit more stimulated.

Ok see you at the pool 930.

Sound to me like she felt taken for granted , as if you didn't realise that she also has a life outside her work. Childminding is not like working in a nursery , where you get to leave it all behind when you go home.If a family arrives at 10 to 8 in the morning instead of 8 , the childminder opens the door , but at a nursery it stays shut until 8 , and conversely it would be deemed a greater inconvenience to a nursery whose staff have to stay behind if there is a late collection than to a childminder who would still be "there" anyway.
Communicate with her , not with a teething baby in your arms as you head off to work , either.If you're going to be able to entrust the care of your child to her you need to be able to speak to her about it.Perhaps she needs to know that you've been happy with the service so far but would like to know how she intends enabling your childs development through activities and outings , for instance?

frazzled and knackered is what most cms look like at the end of a day? dont you look like that after a hard day at work?
tbh i would have been pissed off too if i were her,she obviously has her own family to think about too and fit in around her working day just as you do.would you have been happy to tell your child they had to walk home from football practice?
now i fully understand that tubes striking were not your fault but did you not know this before you went to work? or did you notify her at the last minute?
i have to say your cm maybe was a little tactless but try and see it from her pov.