To be upset I wasn’t told?

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Just in case...the daily mail is a steaming pile of horse shit.

I found out today that my DF has remarried. Via WhatsApp. I’m shocked and quite upset. I was notified in a group conversation along with my siblings and cousins.

I know it’s his day his roolz blah blah blah, but I’m hurt that he has only announced it post-event and not even with a phone call.

Guess I should be happy for him but I’m struggling.

My DF remarried when I was 12. I got told in a letter. They said it was just a small ceremony with close friends and family.......

Just not the grooms only child.

My sm won a large amount of money. Told df it wasn't anything to do with him. He actually apologised he couldn't treat my dc as sm wouldn't admit it was shared money. Ticket bought with joint cash as not working and claimed a joint benefit..
He whispered out of her earshot he would leave us some of his share if he got any...
Didn't care about any money but just the way he was being treated....
She eventually got her way and he dumped us.

So painful OP.

Some Fs are so disappointing. It hurts.

Just in case...the daily mail is a steaming pile of horse shit.

🙄 Because even if posting this kind of crap made a difference, they’d be interested in this story anyway.

I know exactly how you feel. My DM did this. It wasn't not being invited, it was the fact she told us in an email afterwards, so I found out at the same time as my cousins and extended family.
I got brave and told her I was upset. She apologised and said she didn't think about it like that, she just wanted to tell everyone as quickly as possible. I could then see that from her perspective as she's a very impatient person (still thought it showed a spectacular lack of understanding but hey).

My DF situation is very like yours sadly, his new wife has pushed me away and we don't speak much now. We used to be very close. It makes me sad but there's nothing I can do about it.

It’s the kind of stunt my dad would pull - not designed to be hurtful, he just literally doesn’t think of anyone but himself. Let yourself be upset about it, it’s fair enough that you’d be hurt but try to let it go - you’re the person that’s hurting so try not to hold on to it for too long because he’s off living his life and so should you be.

They have been together a long time, it sounds as if they ‘just got it done’ as an admin thing.

Not everyone makes a big hoopla out of a wedding, especially second weddings, and why take it personally? He didn’t tell anyone, not just you.

Instead of making it all about you, send a lovely message and invite them to come and see the kids.

Unless there is a big backstory waiting in the wings....

YANBU OP. My Dad remarried two years ago.

He didn't tell me or my brother.

I didn't even know he had a girlfriend.

I'v still to this day never met her (as an adult, i met het a few times as a child)

He told my grandparents and they didn't tell me either - they went to the wedding!

I found out when I bumped into a relative in town who though I knew.......

I think I still wouldn't know if I hadn't. He even took his wedding ring off when he came to see me and the kids.